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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:Well, I am back again. I posted a few days ago, "second date and wanting to know where its going". I didnt ask him about his thoughts on a relationship because it is still early, but I did bring up the subject of what he thinks thus far. He said that he had a nice time with me, and that he finds me very attractive. But he says the only problem is that neither one of us are big talkers and other than that everything is good. I am by nature, a reserved person and more of a listener.. and he has revealed that he has basically the same personality. But I think maybe slightly worse. I don't remember the terms he used, but I remember him saying he hates crowds and gets anxious in certain social situations. Although I wouldn't have guessed it, because he seems to keep his cool just fine one on one, other than being a little more quiet than some people.Do you think I should just put him in a friend catagory and chalk it up as a mis-match? I feel like we could get along great if we have the opportunity to become more relaxed with each other, but I'm not sure, maybe he doesn't want someone with a personality so close to his own. I personally like him, just as he is.... I wouldn't like someone who is loud and obnoxious. Do you think two people who are of the same personality type such as this could get along well after the jitters are gone? Right now I'm thinking I will probably leave the ball in his court and see what happens. Either way, I met a very interesting person, so it's not a total loss. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2009): 1st of all you 2 are intrested in each other both of you are just scared to make a move because you think its going to be the wrong one. you 2 need to sit down and talk tell him that you do like him and you want things to work out you just have jitters everytime you see him "butterflys" everyone gets them. i still have them sometimes and ive been with my man for 8 months. you two need to sit down and just start talking about your lives tell him everything and let him know you want to know everything about his life and if you run out of things to say ask him about things he likes to do and name some things you like to do just keep topics in your head and keep the conversation flowing.
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