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41-50,
anonymous
writes:Let's start with saying I am gay. Me and my boyfriend have been going out for almost 6years he llived 60 miles away so we would meet up or I would go see him yes you would call it a long distance relationship . He got a job closer to we're I live and we both got a house together we moved in on dec 1st. Everything was going great . His hours are different then mine . He works till 1am in the morning . But when he got home I would get up to see how his day went like I said. Everything was great. We are also best friends . .i know he was going throw a tuff time being away from his family and with his new job , I could tell he was strest . On dec.13 he text me saying I need a brake from us" wow it throw me for a lope. Out of the blue ! Yes we still live together. He sleep in the best room . It's now jan 23 he went to his cuzens for a long weekend to clear his head last nite he came home from work and woke me up and stood in my door. Talking to me "? He looked sad Did he want to talk about us. But did not know how to bring it up? Do you think he wants to work it out? He s asks our friend how I am doing but want ask me to my face ? So confused at the moment!
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reader, CMMP +, writes (24 January 2013):
I don't understand how you've been with him for six years and don't know what was going on but you are asking a bunch of strangers what he was thinking.
I'd just ask him. You have to communicate with him. Six years is a long time.
There could be a number of reasons that he needs time off, many of which might have nothing to do with you.
But if you want to help him and help your relationship you've got to get him to open up.
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reader, itcantjustbeme +, writes (24 January 2013):
 Sometimes moving in together puts a strain on the relationship that was unforeseeable. You could spend years with someone, and you could spend weeks at their place but when you finally have to call your space someone else's space, you start thinking a different way. You start reconsidering some feelings, and you might even start to resent the person your with and you don't know why...
I think the best remedy is to communicate, talk, but that is also difficult because he asked for space. Maybe you could try to bring that you do want to talk about things, openly and without limitations... at least once and then you'll go back to giving him all the space he needs.
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