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writes:Do you think a woman will be happy in a relationship that will never lead to marriage?What's the pros and cons if a couple lives as a common-law vs. as a marriage couple? (kids are out of the question) Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2007): Can a woman be in a common law marriage without kids and be happy?
YES
I am just such a woman.
For other women, this is not a happy scenario.
Generally speaking, you have to be a woman who likes her independence and has many interests, a strong network of friends and a career or passion. Probably also will be someone who doesn't shy away from thinking 'outside the box' and doesn't mind not fitting in.
Am I happy? YES!
Life is grand. Do I regret not having children? NO. THere are plenty of children who share my life but whom I do not parent.
It takes all kinds to make up this world!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2007): Urm,,,
well lets see, if a woman does not want to get married and does not want children, then yes she will be quiet happy being with a man that wants the same. OBVIOUSLY.
whats your question. are you by any chance in a relationshhip already and dont want children and marriage etc and feel your partner may?
well then, if the above is the case then you need to communicate, and find out what her needs of the future are. otherwise end it, for her sake.
besides, i dont know of any men that dont want children... oh i know a few in there 50's who never wanted kids but would die for them now... im yet to meet someone of an old age that is happy that they never had kids. its kind of odd, its human biology and human nature to want to bear kids, even if that decision is made very late in life IE in your 40's 50's.
I can almost bet my life on it though that there is not one person out there in the whole entire world that hasnt had kids ... but thought 'what if i had had kids'.....
maybe you should be more open minded. i never wanted kids, now i have fertility problems and probably cannot.. Wanna swap conditions???
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reader, ChiRaven  +, writes (27 February 2007):
 WAY too wide open a question. A woman of what age? What are her circumstances? What is she looking for in life at this time?
I know a woman who is VERY happy living with a man and neither one has any plans to get married, ever. She's 83, he's 87. They've been together since she was a mere kid of 79. Same thing with a woman of 59 and a man of 57. And a woman of 19 and a man of 30.
So yes, it IS possible for a woman to be happy and fulfilled in a relationship with a man that is not intended to lead to marriage. BUT!!!! The woman (and the man, too, for that matter) should know her own mind, and be aware of her own wants, needs, and long term goals before getting herself into any kind of commitment to someone else, whether it involves marriage or not.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2007): its not about women being happy. would u be happy never getting married and knowing that ur relationship wasnt going to go further than common law. i personally would not be in the relationship that i am in now if we were not going to be married, but thats just me. cant get all the benefits of a wife without making me a wife. and lets see pros and cons. its different for everyone, sharing bank accounts, decision making, children. its something u have to think about. what do u want.
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