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writes:do you guys think 18 is a bad age for marriage and kids? i mean like if you find the rite person to be with, have a career and ur partner has a job to fall back on.. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous11 +, writes (1 July 2008):
as far as im concerned if u truely love him u should marry him but as far as kids i would wait and get an edu. and job. B4 u have kids u should prob find a job baby sitting or a day care so u would have some experience as far as a mother
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reader, DuncanGreen +, writes (1 July 2008):
 NO! You do not want to have kids at that age. You need to get yourself on your feet first. Get an education, a career, buy a home, save up some money, and then have some kids to fill up your home and spend your money.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2008): Look at it this way:
You probably have 60 more years to live, and a good 25 more years to be a fertile mother. I think you can wait until you're old enough to buy beer before you start trying to have kids.
If you don't have the patience to wait just a couple of years, then you're definitely not ready to get married and have kids yet.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2008): Kids, did somebody mention kids. BAD, BAD IDEA, your guy will run. No guy wants that kind of responsibility at 18years old.
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (1 July 2008):
 I doubt you have the career at 18 you believe you have, and if you have a baby that so called career will fizzle away. Does your boyfriend's job pay him enough to support you and a baby , rent on a house, bills etc. Is he prepared to sacrifice holidays, car, nights out ( the sort of stuff people your age do ) for a pregnant girlfriend? Does he still live at home? These are grown up questions, have you asked yourself these yet?
Have you discussed this with your boyfriend, is he as enthusiastic as you to start a family? I think it highly unlikely a boy would be so keen to give up his freedom to support a new family. You live in the states so I imagine you can't even go to a bar for a legal drink yet? You havent even started your life, so what's the rush?
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reader, no_issues +, writes (1 July 2008):
 Asking if 18 is a good age for marriage and children is like asking, "Is the remote wilderness a fun place for a vacation?"
The answer is that it all depends -- Who are you with? How well equipped are you? What do you have to fall back on? Do you have a plan? If you don't have a plan, are there people nearby who can help you out when you get lost?
And... will there be beer?
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reader, The Gentle Man  +, writes (1 July 2008):
 In my opinion it is way to early to be tied down completely. At 18 you have just become an adult and there are loads of things to experience. Marriage is something you wait years before commiting too. Also when having children you would need to take into consideration what impact it could have on your career. Then there is always the possibility that the dad wont hang around.
Ultimately these are decisions that ideally take years of trust between two people. There isnt any rush on these decisions, You can get married anytime and have children anytime, but is it the right time ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2008): 18 is not good, your too young. The problem is that nowadays people can live untill 100. That's a real long time to promise that you'll love them until the day they die. People change all the time, and at 18 you still have many experiences still to come. Many teenage marriages (like many other types of marriages) end in divorce. People change, and we hear stories daily about "I wish I never got married so young" or "I've fallen out of love with my husband"
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reader, ChiRaven +, writes (1 July 2008):
 It's really hard these days to have adequate job training to have a secure career at 18. If you're planning to be married at that age, your life plan should definitely include a strategy for both of you to continue your educations. That's REALLY hard to do if there are kids involved.
It can work. It does work. But it's HARD work. If you're looking for a bed of roses and an easy life, forget it. Making your way in this world is going to be tough. Making your way through the pitfalls that doom one out of every two marriages is going to be even tougher. It gets a little easier if you hold off until you are a little older, a little better educated and trained, a little more mature, and a little more likely to be a candidate for a good job. There isn't supposed to be discrimination by age in employment, but I've got a news flash for you ... there is!
But even then it's still tough. ANY marriage is tough. But the rewards are worth it.
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reader, grouchy +, writes (1 July 2008):
waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay too young. Don't be in a hurry.
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