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writes:Why can’t I stop having dreams of my ex boyfriend? It’s been two years since we broke up and with a good reason. Why can’t I just forget about him like I have with my other bfs? Is it because I dated him the longest?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2018): Come on, you know better than that. Dreams are just brain-activity during sleep, that is only influenced by your own daily activities and unresolved-subconscious concerns. You do not have dreams because of thoughts in the minds of other people. That cosmic/psychic stuff is unscientific and has no supportive-evidence to prove it.
Keep your feet firmly planted in reality, my dear!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2018): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIt is by night dreaming. It is not every day though but once a week. Is it true what they say? That if you dream of your ex it’s cause they are still thinking of you?
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (17 January 2018):
 Is it daydreaming or night time dreaming? If by night: it means you have unresolved issues with yourself that came to surface in association with your ex. If daytime dreaming: means you want a relationship and you think of him as hes the latest one you were with.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2018): You loved him. You still hold a some resent men against him, and a little love may still linger. You did care for him at some point, then things went to hell. The length of a relationship can also keep a photograph in the back of your mind. Reminding you to avoid repeating that pain!
I was in a 28-year relationship. He died 8 years ago. I dream of him, but I can't see his face. It's always a blur; or he's looking away. Which means my mind has accepted it. I have never had a dream of the guy who dumped me. During the time with him, nor sense. Hallelujah! He wasn't bad, just not the best time of my life.
You may still have some reminders sitting around your place. They are sometimes not in clear sight; but can have a "subliminal-effect." An article of clothing, pictures you took at a party or on a trip. Something he repaired or fixed for you. A gift, or you see someone who looks a lot like him. Even a song can trigger a memory or a flashback. You're also holding on to a little pain. Stay away from checking him on social media. It leaves impressions in your mind.
Minimize socializing with mutual-friends. Throw-out or stash mementos or keepsakes from his era. They've got to go!
Loneliness brings back old-memories that sometimes manifest in dreams. You may need more intellectual-stimulation or culture to enlighten your life. Fill-up your mind with new adventures to crowd-out old memories. Try to stop memorizing your dreams in detail; distract your mind, and they'll blackout.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (16 January 2018):
 Possibly yes, it could also be that if you are single at the moment he is the last relationship you had so he is still in your head. Either way don't stress about it. It doesn't mean you are not over him, it just means that you still have memories off him and still think about it from time to time. No harm in that at all.
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