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writes: hi, last year i met a lovely man after coming out of a 10 year relationship we got on really well. After being together for 4 months i had started to develop feelings for this man and it scared me as we he was 13 years older than me ( he is 43 )I was foolish enough to go back to my ex as i thought this new man would shun my feelings. I told this new man what i had done but remained it contact with him by text. During the time i spent with my ex i realised i did not love my ex but the man i met last year. I recently finished again with my ex as i only loved him like a brother. I met up with this man last week and he told me he is seeing someone else and to forget about him and that i caused him a lot of pain, do you think there is anyway i can win this man back and convince him i am not going to do anything like this again or should i walk away and let him get on with his life??
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reader, fallenman  +, writes (25 February 2007):
 Believe it or not mature men have feelings, some men can handle being dumped better than others. But being dumped has the same effect as being rejected and no one likes that.
It possible that having be dumped / rejected by you once he is unwilling to risk it a second time.
If a 13 year age gap scares you, then you either have to be more selective or accept that love is love no matter what the age gap. The only exception is possibly child bearing where a younger partner may be an advantage.
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