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writes:Is there really anyway to tell the diffrence between being too untrusting/paranoid. Verse intuetion? If so how do you tell? Seriously, I'm very quick to catch on, see what's the truth or lies, and I've been threw and seen it all. I thought I can't figure anything out with this guy. If he's genuion, or a complete joke?
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reader, LLindy87 +, writes (16 August 2010):
 with me, my intuition is usually a nagging feeling that tells me that there is some redflag about the guy. A month ago I met this guy who on paper seemed great, he was cute, in person he was lovely and we had a good time. However my gut kept this feeling that he was fake and no good. I thought it was my own commitment issues and that I was being paranoid, so I kept going on dates with him. After the third date I told him that it wasn't working out, that I thought I was ready for a relationship but now I realize I am not. I said this because that was the truth, I thought those 'gut feelings' were coming out just because I was paranoid I was going to date a crappy guy again and I was afraid of getting hurt.
well, turns out that my intuition was right, it wasn't my paranoia, after telling him perfectly nicely that I didn't want to continue going on dates and being very honest he texted me 20 times, said he loved me and that I was the one, and after I didn't respond to those (it scared the shit out of me...we had only known each other for two weeks and met through an online dating site) he left me a very threatening voicemail that said he didn't accept that we are over and that he thought I was different that I was going to have his children someday.
So I found out my intuition was dead on. This guy was nuts. I didn't give him any inclination that I wanted to rush into a serious relationship, in fact, I told him quite the opposite, that I wanted to take things very slow.
basically, my answer to your question is that intuition is something you can't control, its a feeling. Paranoia would be that you never give any guy a chance at all even if you genuinely liked him..just in case he might be crazy, a jerk or a desperate weirdo.
If you get a bad feeling around the guy, that should tell you. Don't be naive about it either, because I think back and am thankful that I decided to call the guy instead of telling him to his face, because I almost feel like I'd be in a dangerous situation if I told him in person.
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reader, alexis23 +, writes (16 August 2010):
 Well there can't be an exact answer to your question unless you describe "him" and your situation a little more. Try being a little more specific.
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