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writes:Married friend really not happy with her relationship.Staying for the two children age ten and twelve. Should I tell her that I would like to be more than friends or just leave it? I feel shes interested in me also but neither of us would agree in cheating. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2008): yer i think u should not tell her becouse this will make her think that she has a man running after her and make her leave her husband for you and even if something happens bettween u and her she mite do the same thing to u so just leave it and wait unttill she desides to leave her husband her self.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2007): mate, i think you should leave it alone and wait it out. theres nothing worse than another guy in the picture, it will probably confuse her and the other guy would probably come after you. she is still married even though she is just there for her kids, she is an adult and she can make up her own mind. you will just make an already hurtful moment worse and you and her could get hurt mentally
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reader, Coaster +, writes (30 September 2007):
Coaster is verified as being by the original poster of the questionFair comment Phil, thanks for that.Yes there is a lot more to this really, short question as first time on the net and a bit nervous! Shes told me so much about her relationship, how hes cheated on her and shes left him before,how shes had councelling and that it is inevitible that their marrage wont last. I feel like we are already cheating emotionally, just not the physical bit! I like the idea of telling her Id be their for her, cheers
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2007): You contradict yourself - you say neither of you would agree to cheating, yet you also say you want to tell her you want to be more than friends.
Am I missing something here?
If she leaves her husband I would have thought it unlikely that she'd jump straight into another relationship.
You could just tell her that if she decided to end her marriage you'll be there for her. That way you will have registered your interest, but it'll be up to her whether she takes you up on the offer.
Phil
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