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writes:Girls, do I seem attractive?I'm a sweetheart, very smart, fun, strong, good hugger, tough, confident and I'm very independent. Sometimes people say that I'm very handsome. I believe when ever I get a girlfriend, she'll be the best thing that will ever happen to me. I never had one yet. I'm not one of those guys who dates women just for sleeping with her.I'm currently studying in college for Graphic Design. I love working on computer Technology. I've been playing video game I whole life and I'm learning how to make my own. I don't have a job yet, I'm going to have one in the summer.
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reader, shrodingerscat +, writes (19 November 2012):
 You believe that when you get a girlfriend, she'll be the best thing that will ever happen to you?
I think that's putting your future girlfriend on a pedestal that's incredibly unrealistic, sweetie.
Women are people. We're not goddesses to be elevated. And you never know what relationship can crash and burn for whatever reason.
You're young and idealistic. Watch out that those qualities don't turn into naive and unrealistic, because there's a fine line between the two.
Treat women like people, and be sensible and cautious when entering a relationship. If you think that the first girl that ever deigns to date you is going to be THE BEST THING EVER, you really have no idea how awesome the rest of your adult life will be. Buying your own home, having your first child, your wedding day, the time you adopt a shelter pet? THOSE are going to be your best moments...not your first girlfriend.
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reader, nathdies +, writes (19 November 2012):
We can't gauge your attractiveness off of such a description. I could go on for days listing my good qualities - I'm smart, I'm funny, I'm loyal to a fault, I genuinely care about people, etc. But at the same time, I'm an acquired taste. I can be mean without ever realizing it, I can close myself off to people for fear of getting hurt, I'm stubborn, I am completely inept when it comes to showing affection, etc. When you list the good without the bad, we're not getting a true sense of who you are. Perhaps what you should do is figure which of your traits are harder to love? And trust me, someday soon you'll find someone who is not only incomplete awe of your good qualities, but loves you for the qualities that set you apart from everyone else. I know it can be frustrating to wait for that special person, or even a person, to come into your life, but these things take time and some of us don't have it as easy as others. Just keep focusing on yourself and you're guaranteed to attract the type of person you want.
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reader, Staceily +, writes (19 November 2012):
 Yepp you sound like a catch. Make sure your confidence doesn't turn to cockiness and you are all set.
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