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writes:How can I stop this affair. Im so confused I've been having on off fling with a lad who is also my best friend, I'm in love with him. This would be great and would work perfectualy except he has a gorlfriend who I persuaded him to ask out around 2 years ago, at the time I was convinced that was what he wanted. Except no Its me he wants but he wont break up with her becaus ehe doesnt want to lose her as a freind. I don;t no what to do. I keep trying to call it off iwth him but only ends up starting up again and its always me thats restarting the affair. I love him and Have no idea what to do. Bare in mind his Girlfrien is a stuck up cow nad his family can't stand her but cinsider me one of their own.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2007): Im afraid to say this reads like my own life. Ive know someone all my life and have realised i love him, but he has a girlfriend of 4 years. We arent exactly having an affair but things keep happening between us. At the time im usually the one to stop it going to far but he keeps coming back too. I understand exacly how it feels, like you are the one who has known him all the time, if anything she has taken him away from you and if its meant to be then someone else shouldnt stand in the way! but when you look at it from the outside i can see exactly where other people are coming from. we are being naive so what ive decided to do is, ive waited this long, ill give him the ultimatium me or her and even if he does choose me, id leave it a year to see exactly how much he means his choice and only then would i know how he truly feels, if he cares that much he'll wait for you. hope this helps!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2007): If he wanted you, then he would leave her and ask you out. It sounds to me like he doesn't want you at all, he just wants to have his fun with you. You might disagree, but the facts speak for themselves. Do you really believe that he won't fnish with her because he doesn't want to lose her friendship? Are you really falling for that line? It's a load of old rubbish and a pathetic excuse on his part. His girlfriend might be a 'stuck up cow' but she certainly sounds too good for him to be with seeing as he can't keep his hands to himself. You're right, the ideal scenario would be if you too got together - then she could meet someone who is faithful. X
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reader, dapone 1 +, writes (27 October 2007):
 Dear Rose Thorn.
I am sorry to tell you but this guy is not in love with you, if he as a girl friend, and wont leave her, then he does not love you, you really need to get away from this person, and the only way you can do that is to, tell him that you DO NOT love him and cannot continue because it is not fair on his girl friend, if then he say that he is leaving her for you, DO NOT believe him, because he will still be seeing her behind your back,not only that but if he does go out with you, remember he has already cheated on his GF, so in turn he will cheat on you.
hope this helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2007): In your opinion she's a stuck up cow.
Its sounds like you are deluding yourself, he wants you as a bit on the side. Otherwise it would be him who is restarting the affair.
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