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writes: I feel like I'm being pressured into losing weight. I've always had a thing about my weight, from being bullied about my weight throughout my childhood, but truth be told, I'm not fat, and I'm not thin, but yet I feel like I have to lose weight or no one will want me. All I see is skinny girls, that are gorgeous, and I look at myself and feel worse.I feel that I can only wear baggy clothes because everything else thats slightly tight looks disgusting on me, and I feel that I will never find a boyfriend because I'm fat.Should I try and lose weight to make myself feel better, or should Is it all in my mind? Please help.
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reader, DrPsych  +, writes (29 April 2006):
 Only you can decide if you need to lose weight or not, but don't be pressured by other people. Check your BMI. Having a boyfriend should not be about being fat. At the end of the day you should want someone to like you for you, not your waist line. My weight has yo-yo'd all my life because of medical conditions but I know my husband, and most serious ex-BFs don't/ didn't mind that much about the weight. My mother tried to pressurise me to diet a lot as a teenager and in my early 20's before the medical problems got sorted and that led to an eating disorder. What I am trying to say is that you should lose weight for you, not others, but since you write that you are not overweight in the first place then perhaps you need to concentrate on what is nice about you, rather than any flaws?
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reader, robinlovescena +, writes (28 April 2006):
 I think that you should love the way you look either way. A lot of the people that i hang out with arent skinny. not fat, not not skinny. I am skinny, and one of the very few of my friends that are. I dont look at my friends like they are weirdos. I look at them as if they are my best friends, and people should not pressure you into loosing wieght. If you truely are a good person, and like who you are, don't change for anyone else. love the person you are beyond all of the weight.good luckRobinaka advice gurl
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reader, Angel ron +, writes (28 April 2006):
 Its up to you how you ffeel at the end of the day. If you feel you have to lose weight then you should do at the end of the day only you know whats best.
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reader, chachacha +, writes (28 April 2006):
Lose weight if you want to and it may make you feel better.
Don't lose weight to try to find a bf though - do it for yourself.
Good luck
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reader, lisa_01  +, writes (28 April 2006):
 who is pressuring you into losing weight? not all guys like really skinny girls, truth be told some prefer a women with abit of meat on her,i think if you eat health, do regular exersise and just be yourself then the boys will start to be interested. im not going to tell you to lose any weight mostly because i don't know how much you weight, but check your BMI you can do this on the interent, by entering in your height and weight and it will tell you if your at a healthy body weight. i am a very skinny girl myself, and i don't consider myself that good looking i get pimples and bad hair days just like the rest of them and sometimes i even get picked on for being too thin and un healthy looking, so even if you did lose weight this might not make you feel better about yourself, its all about your adittude towards life and yourself and once you change this you might even find that you may feel better about your body.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2006): If you decide to lose the weight, make sure that it's to feel healthier and better about yourself overall, not just to look "skinny" or make other people happy. It sounds like you would feel a lot better about yourself if you did, but be careful not to take it to far and develop and eating disorder. Just take it slowly and focus on becoming heathier and more fit overall, rather than just on what you'll look like. Your confidence in yourself and happiness should not be determined by a number on a scale or how you think you look in a bikini. Good luck.
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