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writes:I have been seeing a man for a few weeks. He is a great guy and we have been falling for each other. The other night we had sex for the first time. It was amazing and I felt safe and close to him. He had some issues keeping his erection and being able to get off. I chalk it up to it being our first time together and maybe a little anxiety. It didn't really bother me at all. Well, the next day I was freaking out a little (after being imtimate with him), was exhausted after little sleep, and feeling vulnerable and over a small issue I mentioned maybe we shouldn't see each other anymore. Well, it really hurt him. I feel terrible about it and wish I could take it back. We have discussed it some. He said it really hurt him and while he's "not saying we're done" he's going to be more careful. On top of this it turns out the issues when we had sex really bother him as well. I told him it doesn't bother me and we can work it out in time, but it bothers him.Anyway, I have of course apologized for what I said, but things aren't the same and I think I've lost his trust. :( I think he's pulling back some. I'm trying to be there for him, but give him space where he needs it. Is that what I'm supposed to do? any advice b/c I'm just unsure and I feel terrible. Do I just keep moving forward and hope he will in time trust me with his heart again?
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reader, Misssarah  +, writes (5 January 2011):
 i would say what you are doing at the minute is right and all you can do. You will have to give him a wee bit of space just because he feels hurt. But if you have said your are sorry and explained the sitution, you can only wait for him to come round, which i would say he will in his own time :)
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