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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:Hello and thank you very much in advance for read my letter, my boyfriend, who is everything to me, is giving me mixed signals, we have been together for 10 months, we have had our ups and downs, but we always work it, we really get along really well, he has always tell me that he has never liked someone as he likes me, that before I appeard he was not interested in have anything serious with anyone, he was not even interested in get involved romantically.He is 29 and I am 27, he is very shy and introverted, extremelly shy and extremelly introverted, for him is very dificult to express his feelings, even when he has told me many times that he has a lot of feelings for me, he introduced me to his parents and his brother, he introduced me to all his friends. We normally seen each other 3 times a week, and talk on the phone regulary. My problem is that, he is always telling me how scare he is that me to leave him, and don't want to see him anymore, because he knows that I don't have any contact with my ex, because he is evil, so he is scare that I leave him and he is also scare that I won't want to have any contact with him. But at the same time, the other day he told me like "what are you going to do when you get married? tell your husband ...." I know that he is in a moment of his life that he cannot get married, he is in college and he is not economically stable, on the other side, I have a very successfull career, I have a master degree in engineering, and have a very good salary, my own car, I am not desperatelly to get married, but this is the first time in my life that I really feel good with someone, he has told me that he is very scare of get too used to me, because he is scare of me leaving him. He has also tell me, that he is not used to feel so good with anyone, like he feels with me. He is always complimenting me and doing everything to please me. He has gave up time with his friends in order to spend time with me. So I honestly don't know if he really loves me, if we have future together. he is the kind of person that is a loner/geek/introverted, and I am honestly a geek also, but extroverted and bubly and very atractive. For me he is everything and I love him, just the way he is, but I don't know if we have future together
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2008): it sounds like you may have a future with him.....you just need to sit down with him and talk and tell him how you feel and that how he doesnt need to be shy around you and if he thinks your going to leave tell him that your happy with him but he doesnt need to worry about that.....sounds like everyhting is going good so i wouldnt stress just go with the flow .....just make sure you show him that your happy with him and how much he means to you and im sure he will come around
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