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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:I would like your advice on a dilemma. Coming from an Asian background, i am at the age where most girls are married. My Parents are searching for a potential partner for me, which i do not have a problem with, as i have the final say regarding the guy in question.But over the past two years i have been conversing with a guy friend (B), who has recently told me that he loves me, the feeling however is not mutual, i do like him as a person and thoroughly enjoy his company. He has asked me on several occasions to marry him. I know that he is not the type of person that my parents, especially my mother would approve of. Hence why I have prevented myself for having any feelings for him, but his kind nature and attitude makes it difficult. I don’t have the courage to tell my parents about B, if he was someone they would approve of, I would not have had a problem. I am scared of letting my parents down, I can’t stand the thought of them being disappointed in me. Now B has distanced himself and I miss his talking to him.On top of that my ex (K) is trying to contact me to make amends as he is considering marriage himself. And has outlined that he is still interested in me.I would like to know what the best things for me to do would be? Do I pursue things with B and let my parents know? Do I forgive K for the past and give him another chance?Please get back to me on this.Kind Regards
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reader, Entirely Unique +, writes (22 March 2010):
 I believe in love very strongly and would follow my heart over anything else but I do understand with your background its more about suitable partners and growing to love them.
You have to decide what is right for you because you are the one that will be in the situation and spending your life with the person you choose to spend it with.
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