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writes:So, I've been after this girl for a long time--two years now--and have become good friends with her, even though I've never made my feelings known to her.One of my friends, someone I've known almost all my life, just recently broke up with his girlfriend after a year and a half of dating her. I don't normally share my love interests with friends, so I doubt he has a clue I like this girl.Now they're in a relationship, even though they met weeks ago. This is her first relationship too, she isn't promiscuous.I don't know whether to confront him about it, or her, or just wait... or really anything. I've never felt worse in my life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2008): Your question is a little bit tough because the girl is already dating the guy. I would've said confront your friend and let him know you like the girl if they weren't in a relationship. Because once they're in a relationship, it means that the decision was made by two parties - your friend and the girl. There are some things you have to weigh up: will confronting him give you the chance to go out with the girl? Or will confronting him now only strain your friendship? It isn't technically your friend's fault since he didn't know of your feelings for the girl. Maybe next time when you like a girl, let your buddies and the girl know? Even if you're shy, drop a few hints.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2008): Hi there,
This is an awful situation! You probably regret not telling her or your friend how you felt before they got together.
Dont feel like because your friend has only just met this girl, and they are already dating, there is something wrong with you. It may be that you are more suited as friends, and because your relationship was matey from the beginning, she probably didnt want to ruin anything, and just didnt see you as date-potential.
My advice is to explain to your guy freind how you feel, but that you are happy for her and him to be together (even though your probably not!) Hopefully you will feel a bit better getting your feelings out in the open, and he will understand.
As for the relationship, it might not last long or work out, then you will have another chance with the girl.
But in the meantime, try to focus on other people, keep busy, and eventually something really good will happen when you least expect it. Keep smiling! =)
Hope this advice helped, mail me or post a comment about what happens!
Angel x
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