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writes:Me and my boyfriend were trying to find something to watch and he jokingly said "porn" - we're very open, so I said I was up for it and I'd like to see what he's into. But he then told me he didn't watch porn, that he had me and didn't need it, and got really complimentary. Funnily enough, he went downstairs to get food and told me to find something on his laptop, and I typed "m" in the search bar and a Tumblr porn site came up.I'm not an idiot, who doesn't watch porn these days. But I feel a bit miffed, not that he said he didn't watch it because I knew that was a lie, but because he went overboard telling me how his eyes were only for me and he wouldn't want to look at anyone else, even in porn, etc etc, blah blah. Is it wrong for me to feel frustrated at him? I dunno, maybe he was embarrassed, but he didn't have to so blatantly lie about it surely? It made all his compliments feel false. It's not something I can really bring up, he will probably think I was shopping when I didn't intentionally. I don't mind porn, but it does make me self conscious. Especially as he watches stuff with big c*cks and I'm average both looking and down there (I looked at the site when I got home, probably wrong of me but I couldn't help myself, that part was snooping). Should I do anything or say anything about it? Or just let it simmer and hopefully move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 September 2017): Pa-leeeeeez don't be a Petty-Patty! There was a little bit of sweetness; and some playful sarcasm in there. It just went over your head, sweetie! Our men are supposed to tease us. It's part of their charm!
You said you don't mind porn, then went into this diatribe about how false his compliments are and big cocks; so on and so-forth, and etc.
Go ahead and pick a fight, precious. Some silly things we have to laugh-off; and just overlook them, for the sake of keeping the peace. Go take an extra-strength chill-pill to calm your nerves.
He could have just as easily said something to hurt your feelings, snapped his fingers, and walked away. He knew you would go through his laptop. You're gay, it's a given.
You snooped. So he has ammunition to shoot back. You know he watches porn. It's no big surprise. Nobody watches porn to see little dicks. He loves you and what your penis is attached to. Porn is nothing but nasty images on a screen.
He doesn't have to be disappointed in the size of your dick. He just might decide you're a little too touchy and oversensitive for a grown-man. A more legitimate reason for concern. Would you agree?
There are worse things to fight about. Leave it alone.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (14 September 2017):
 Do you call him out? You can. I'd tell him you know there is no need to lie about it. I don't feel like you watching porn is detrimental to our relationship (if that is how you feel) or whatnot.
Don't forget what people like to watch as far as porn is FANTASY not always what they want in reality.
Lying about isn't good but it's also not totally strange. He probably felt like lying was to "protect" you.
YOU have to decide how important it is for you that he knows how you feel. In a way, I'd say talk about it (not confront) so he knows that he doesn't need to lie to try and please you.
Porn isn't reality. So don't compare yourself to it. A dude can have a HUGE wang and be a shit person and BF. At least you know your BF isn't with JUST for the size of your penis...
Pick your battles OP - is this topic important to you? Or should you rather have a conversation about lying?
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