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writes: Dear Cupid, I was talking to my friend recently,and she said that the guy I like "isn't worth it" and that I "need to let him go".She told me that he basically tricks girls into liking him, asks them out, and cheats on them.She also said that he can't handle himself because a lot of girls think he is sexy. I want to believe my friend, but it would tear my world apart to give this guy up. What should I do?Sarah Reply to this Question
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reader, Helper +, writes (5 April 2005):
Okay, it seems like you really like this guy, but there are times in life when you follow what your heart tells you to do. Ask your friend about the girls he cheated on and how did she found out about all that. Don't concentrate more on your likings towards him, think how much he likes you. You are not even in relationship with this guy, and you are already confused about going out with him; you are already getting the second thoughts. Even if you move on and go out with him, you will be insecure all the time just thinking about him being loyal to you. You don't wanna be paranoid about it any time when you actaully like this person. This is all I can say, just follow your instincts and path will lead you to your destination.
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (4 April 2005):
 If your friend told you that wombats play mah jongg, would you believe her?She may or may not be right, but why should you allow her to run your life for you and make your decisions? Is she that well-adjusted that she's never... EVER ... been wrong?This isn't an either/or proposition. You can thank your friend for the heads-up and her unproven allegations about your guy and still stay with him. Maybe her opinion will allow you to keep an open mind and be a bit more alert for those sorts of behaviours, but are you really prepared to give up on someone you like, based on hearsay?Once you've decided to make your own judgements about people, you can also examine her motives for claiming that a person would "trick" other people into liking him, if all he wanted to do was cheat on them. (In other words: if he wants girls to like him, why would he then do something so unlikeable?)Good luck dear; I know you'll be sensible about this.
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