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writes: I am in a relationship for two years. For several months things have been rocky because I was feeling neglected. I usually spend the weekend with my boyfriend but on Saturday he is out until 2:00am. I have share this and how I feel with him but nothing but has changed. I made to mistake of confiding in his sister about the hassle I am getting for close friends about dating a man with three children. she told him. He is upset ans so his his mother who now treats me with coldness. I no longer feel comfortable going to visit him.( His apartment is on the same premises as his parents.) We quarrel quite often, atleast I do, about how things are unfolding. He said that it was all my doing and that I chat too much and that I must have told everybody about his business. He even asked me what is it that I want him to do about how his mother treating me.Do I abandon this relationship because It has been adversarial and that he appears to be greatly influenced by what his sisters and mother are telling him. (He has recently been devorced and has three daughters for two women) Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2006): This probably sounds really harsh, but... if you are really unhappy in a relationship, and things don't change, then why not end it? There are plenty of other people you could meet in the future that could make you far happier.
I think far too many people pursue a dying relationship believing it is love that keeps them in it, when in actuality, it is the fear of loneyness.
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reader, shania  +, writes (8 July 2006):
 I dont think it was a good idea to discuss your personal problems to his sister and mother as that was private and as it involved him he probably felt that his life was being scrutinized.To sort these problems out it needs you and your partner to sit down and ask what you two want from this relationship.You say you feel neglected...is that because your fella goes out until 2am in the morning? Maybe you should do the same....instead of waiting for him,why dont you go out with your friends...let your hair down...have some fun and then see what he does.It sounds like boredom has set in and you are living in each other's pockets.Ask him what he wants?...if he really wants to be with you then he will make the effort but if there isn't any real improvement then maybe the relationship has ran its course and therefore call it a day.Another thing is,he has recently divorced,maybe he is being cautious and doesn't want to make another mistake again but if you are unhappy then you will know what to do,with or without his family.
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