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writes:Has anyone ever had a casual dating relationship (seeing each other casually like maybe for a year) before turning into a real, committed relationship? Or have casual things always ended up as nothing more than that? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2009): Emilysanswers said it right. Listen to her. The type of relationship you describe seems to indicate that the guy is not interested in anything more than what you two already have. I'm not saying it would never happen for you, but it appears more likely that he is "keeping his options open."
Perhaps at least the sex is good for you? I suggest you keep looking for a better deal, just like he is.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2009): short answer: no chance sorry
Are you in a casual relationship? Im afraid if you want more your going to have to get rid of this guy and meet someone new.
Please dont stay in a relationship where your not getting what you need
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (15 October 2009):
There will always be an example of a guy who woke up one morning, and decided he wanted to get married. But people also win the lottery.
The chances of that happening are next to zero.
Guys are all very old fashioned about sex. If you have sex casually with a guy then he stops seeing you as girlfriend material... because if you have sex with him casually, then you must do that with other guys too. Even if they know you don't, they still lose respect for you because you are letting them use you.
If you want a boyfriend then you don't have sex with with him till he IS your boyfriend.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, queenbee21 +, writes (15 October 2009):
 I had a casual relationship once. Though I wanted so much more. It was casual because he wanted it to be. After a while I started subtly letting him know I wanted more, then finally I was blunt about it and said I wanted to be serious. He told me no, he liked things the way they were. So I started going out with my friends more and I met a guy that I really just fell head over heals for. When the casual guy called wanting to "hang out" I told him no thank you. He didn't like it one bit. It called me and called me saying he'd be my boyfriend if I'd come back to him. I always said no and I'm glad I did because I ended up marrying the other guy. Thankfully, I learned real men take you on dates, they pay your way, they open doors for you, they compliment you, they listen to you. My casual guy did none of that.
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