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*ho1918
writes:Hi there! My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 4 years although the last 2 years were spent being away from each other since he's now residing in the UK. He came home for vacation last January and a month after he left, I found out I was pregnant. He's extremely happy and very excited about it. I feel the same way but being pregnant makes me very emotional and sensitive as much as I try not to. So the thing which I thought I had already forgotten, still makes me cry every night. This was what happened:A few days before his flight to Manila, there was a girl who wanted to add him on facebook but he rejected her. I didn't mind it at first 'cause I thought it was just nothing. However, I felt something different when she sent him a message asking why he wouldn't add her. So I asked him about it and he said, "she's just a friend of my friend's babysitter. Add her if you want, I don't mind." So I added her to his facebook then on one of her albums, I saw photos where they were seated beside each other. Some they were alone, some they were not. So I wondered why he wouldn't add her if he knew her and they were even drinking wine with other friends. So I got her chat address and started chatting her using my boyfriend's chat account...There I found out that at the night of the party, something happened between them. She described how it happened, what she felt and teased him of doing it again. She knows, by the way, that he's got a girlfriend. I'm pretty sure they were both drunk. When I was satisfied with all the information, I told her that I wasn't really him, that I was the girlfriend. She suddenly changed the story and said that she's not the girl either, just a friend who was messing around her laptop. She said her friend wouldn't do that 'cause she's crazy about her boyfriend who's also in Manila, etc. So I let it go. I waited until my boyfriend came home and when he already did, a few days after, I asked him about it. He said it's not true, but yes, she did go inside his room but she just threw up there and that was it. Nothing happened. Then I spoke with the real girl but this time her story of what happened was different from what my boyfriend told me. She said nothing happened and that she wasn't drunk and that her boyfriend picked her up after the party. I'm not sure if my boyfriend is lying or not but I'm pretty sure the girl is because everything she told me was very inconsistent like her age, saying that her boyfriend's with her in the UK when it's very obvious that he's not. But I have this great feeling that they really had a one night stand and it's breaking my heart.I don't wanna ask my boyfriend about it anymore 'cause he gets mad 'cause I keep bugging him about it. Besides, I don't think he's gonna tell the truth because he knows that I might break up with him.Please tell me what you think. I'm so devastated and heart-broken right now... Please :((
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reader, Cho1918 +, writes (22 May 2010):
Cho1918 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Hi princessofGod43. Thank you for your response. I realized you're right that I should focus on my baby instead of thinking if he cheated or not. I just pray that whatever the truth is he'll come to his senses and be faithful. God bless you!
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reader, princessofGod43  +, writes (30 April 2010):
 Baby girl, with the baby...your child doesn't need this stress...if it could talk...i imagine it would say...mama please if daddy cheated forgive what you don't know so i can have a poppa when i arrive...if you don't think he's doing anything now please...please forgive him because it's too many of us kids on welfare...in daycares while mamas work two or third jobs..and he loves both of us! so mama pray that God gives you agape love...where no sin is too great to get over and agape love that God gave you...look to my new arrival with love and joy...so i can be healthy and happy and normal....love baby!!
God Bless you girl!
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