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reader, anonymous, writes (12 May 2008): Different people define cheating in different ways. In your situation some people feel that a kiss is just a kiss. I agree a kiss is just a kiss.
However, the girl you loved betrayed your trust. But what happened is probably not just her fault. It is yours as well. Have you been loving of your gf? Have you been respecting her? Have you been supportive? Do you communicate with each other? If the answer is yes to all of these questions, then your gf is not appreciative of you.
As much as it hurts, I think you should leave her. I feel that she cannot be trusted. I'm sure you were confused when it happened and tried to be understanding and wanted an answer. In return, she was defensive, angry, starting spitting out lies like it was am improv show. In reality she loves you or she loves the thought of having you in her life and this is why she lied. To protect herself, to keep you in her life. She made a "mistake". A "mistake" that you have to live with.
You need to decide if you believe her story, are able to forgive her, are you able to trust her. I do not mean to be rude, but if you are on this website, you don't believe her story, you cannot decide to forgive her, and you don't trust her.
Break-ups are rough; I know. It may sound cliche but there are better women out there. Women who can be trusted, women who will appreciate you for you.
Stay strong...You are the better person.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2008): Just a kiss? Hard to get over 'just a kiss.' Happened to me about two months ago. She went out with a coworker from out of town for dinner to discuss business. After a few drinks they decided to go out to a club for more drinks and dancing. At the end of the night, they ended up in his hotel room and after some conversation they kissed. Now when she came home she was acting really funny...and I grew suspicious. Two days later I caught her chatting with this guy online and when I confronted her she started spinning a huge web of lies. The typical "we're just friends", "we only work together", and of course "nothing happened". She finally confessed everything to me a few days ago. I do believe that it was 'just a kiss' but it still left me feeling cheated on in a huge way. It's easier to forgive than to forget and even something as insignificant as a kiss can destroy the trust in a relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2007): Ok so my girlfriend 24 im 16 we were going out for about three weeks and this one night she says im going to the club and i have a funny feeling about it , so i wait and i wasn even looking out a window or nothing there gos her ex boy friends car. so call her and yep , shes with him . ok so tats was a big thing whn i finaly made her stop talkingto him, thenlike a week l8ter theres this car at her house im like whos that she says its a friend, but i already know so after a min i find out thruher cuzin that thats her new boy friend, andknow one really new about me cuz of my age,so were pretty much not together anymore and the other day her cuzin told me how to treat her so i was treating her all fuked up and she calls me and says i want to get back with you and all dumb im like k the next day sheswith him agin. What do you make of all this? what do i do? I LOVE HER HO ASS
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reader, joshua19  +, writes (8 June 2007):
 I'm 19 years old young i know my girlfriend is going to be 17 in 3 days and about an hour ago i found out that she had cheated on me about 4 days ago i'm so depressed this is a first for her i have never cheated on her and never will i feel like i need to stay faithful so that we can possibly pull thru this and still get married and do everything we planned in life i want her so bad we are in fact trying to deal with a long distance realationship but that gives her no right to cheat me i made her mad but i didn't cheat on her i think she was just trying to get back at me and now she regrets it i regret leaving her alone if i had been with her this wouldn't have happened i'm sorry and i miss her my name is josh if anybody wants to comment this just send me an email at [email address blocked]
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2007): many variables there..how long, etc etc.....i'd talk it out...if you are still unsure...dump her
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2006): With my "ex" she started with just a kiss. When it starts as a kiss everything after that becomes easy for them to do. I dated her for 2 and a half years and as each couple months went along, she did a little more with someone else. By the im still stuck in the middle of it because love is a hard thing to break away from. Here i am still trying to love her, and just 2 nights ago, she cheated on me with another guy in the worst way possible. And it was even unprotected. I no longer have any trust for her. But i cant stop loving her. Get away while you still have some of your heart to protect.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2005): If you kissed someone else would you want her to take you back? Think of being in her shoes. Try to spice things up in the bedroom and see what effect that has on her!
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (8 April 2005):
 This one's not really black-and-white; you need to think about the circumstances surrounding the kiss.How long have you been going out? A long time (months, years) or just a few weeks?Has your girl been trustworthy up until now? Has she given you reason to doubt her fidelity?Are you 100% sure she's guilty of kissing someone, or is it an unsubstantiated rumour?Do you know why it happened? Was she madly pashing an old boyfriend in secret, or was she grabbed and smooched at a club by some drunk lad who didn't know her from Adam?Did she kiss someone to tick you off, say, after an argument? Is it possible that you did something to drive her away?Think about the circumstances that the kiss occurred in, and if you feel that you want to let her go, then do. However, if you think this was a one-off, give her a chance to make it up to you. One proviso, though: if you decide to give her a second chance, you have to do so with an open mind and not drag out her "infidelity" every time you have a disagreement. You either decide to move beyond it, or you dwell on it. You can't have it both ways.Hope this helps.|
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