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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:hi sorry to bother you but im a little freaked out and would really appreciate some advice. i went out a couple of nights ago with friends. we got a bit drunk and had a good time. then my best friend in the whole world told me that she wanted to talk to me about something important. so we went home and when we were in my apartment she told me that she really likes someone and is scared to make the first move. i told her that she is gorgeous, anyone would be a fool to turn her down and she should just tell them how she feels. The next thing i know she kissed me. i was a little shocked and just froze. she told me that she thinks im beautiful and has wanted to kiss me for a long time. i didnt say anything, i just stared into her eyes. she kissed me again and this time i found myself kissing her back. I felt a big spark between us that i didnt expect. I love my friend, she is beautiful and a great person but i never expected to enjoy kissing her so much. she looked at me after the second kiss and asked me how i feel....i didnt know what to say, i was confused. But i felt an overwhelming urge to kiss her again. i stroked her face, stared her in the eyes and then kissed her. things just snow balled from there and we ended up having sex with each other. it was AMAZING!!!!after that night we woke up in bed together....she kissed me on the lips and then got up, got dressed, made me a coffee and then went home.its now 2 days later and she hasnt mentioned it. so what do i do now?? do i ask to talk to her about it or does she just want to pretend nothing happened? I enjoyed our night together and i want to do it again. its made me realise i have feelings for her and would like to see where this can go. ive never been with a girl before and had no idea that she had those sort of tendencies. But she may have just done it because she was drunk. im very confused. shes my best friend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2010): when we are drunk we often reveal hidden feelings that we wouldnt say when not drunk, a lot of ppl are affectionate when drunk but also a lot dont have sex with with their their best freinds, they might kiss them and hug them and talk about sex but actual sex? most straight ppl dont do that. She sounds like she might be bi,
I think even though she was drunk it sounds like she might like you and have feelings for you, but she didnt want to act on any feelings until she was drunk, because she may have thought that you didnt feel the same way or might have felt embarrassed about talking to you ot probabaly didnt know what to say, you are freinds, its a weird situation. She might have had feelings for u for a while and they came out when you were drunk. She might be a bit embarrassed and unsure about what happened about, and not want to affect the f/ship by mentioning it. Yes she might have also just done it cos in the heat of the moment and cos she was drunk. You had sex with her, you need to talk to her, make a joke of it, maybe "so you had fun the other night" or whatever, dont just pretend it didnt happen!, this will eventually affect yr f/ship, sex always does, if u feel something for her thats great,but u need to talk to her about it. It will be hard, she doesnt want to talk. This is something that goes beyond the usual best female friend friendship, you cant just pretend it didnt happen, things will get weird between you.
good luck
good luck
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2010): In all seriousness, I had this exact same thing happen to me!! I say go for it and bring it up in conversation again, or come up with some other quirky way to make a hint, and see how she reacts.
Or, if you to find out how she feels about it before disclosing how you felt, just say you wanted to talk about it and see how she reacts.
In my case, my friend was simply drunk, but it was killing me each and every time I saw her and she didn't say anything about it!! So go for it!!
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