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writes:Recently a new guy started working where I work. After hanging out a few times we exchanged numbers, and soon after we were hanging out all the time. He'd even text me a few times a day just to talk. For about 2 weeks he'd always want me to come pick him up to hang out, and I thought we were having a good time just being friends. He brought up that he didn't want to be in a relationship with anyone, and I said the same (we both just came out of relationships) But one night he pulled me onto the couch with him to cuddle. That's all it was, and we even laid together a couple times after that (with nothing serious ever happening.) Lately, however, he's become distant. Barely talking to me, and refusing my invitations for him to come over. Even at work he barely talks to me. I really thought we were starting to become good friends, but this whole situation has me confused. Did I somehow drive him away? I've considered a lot but I really can't figure out what is causing him to act this way. Any advice?
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reader, LaLaLoo123  +, writes (6 October 2011):
I don't think you should worry about it that much,
He obviously likes you, maybe he's scared of telling you or he might think you won't like him that way so he's dealing with it himself by staying away. Just talk to him about it, tell him how you feel and maybe it could just be a big misunderstanding, the est thing you can do is talk to him, because you both said you don't want a relationship could be the reason why he's backing off, but just talk to him. I wish you the best, good luck!
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (6 October 2011):
 sounds to me like he's starting to like you and is NOT ready for another relationship so soon after his last one (a good and healthy sign to be honest)
YOU didn't do anything. Just let him be. DO not push him to be with you... he needs time and space to heal.
I've read that women need to be closer to their partners to fell love... men need space and distance to feel it.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (6 October 2011):
 You say he is only out of a relationship and my guess is that he needs some time alone. He made it clear to you straight away that he just wanted to be friends and you made that clear to him as well. My guesses are that he may have started liking you as more than a friend and that is why he has cut contact now so that he can distance himself from you. If you like him as more than a friend well then let him no. But if not well then I guess you just need to accept this.
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