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writes:me and my boyfriend were getting intimate for the first time. He has quite a small penis but it grew really large when turned on, and much larger than I saw a penis grow to compared to its size when soft.so when I saw what size it was becoming, I was taken aback and said on my it really grows, I feel like an idiot now for saying it....would he have been insulted by me saying that...I just said it without thinking and didn't mean anything insulting. do u think he would remember, I gave him head then so hoping that wiped his memory!!Also I saw him Tuesday and he seemed a bit cooler with me, is that a sign he regrets it happening. I have not heard from him today so if he is still cool tomorrow I will start to worry, altho my gut is telling me everything is ok. I heard about men "rubber banding" after being intimate, how true is this that men need to pull away a lil bit after being intimate.Thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 July 2013): I am a male and I don't think I would cosider your comment as an insult if said to me. Also I don't think your comment meant that he is small.so stop worrying.You havn't done anything wrong. There must be other reasons for him being distant.
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reader, sugarplum786  +, writes (18 July 2013):
 Hi, its simple you need to let him know that it was the best sex you had and loved the intimacy as it brought your'll closer. Also you have never enjoyed sex the way you did with him. Assuming this is true. This should take his ego a couple notch higher and fix any damages.
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reader, kellyO +, writes (18 July 2013):
 Hi Anom,
I think men are sensitive on comments regarding this but for your information i asked my husband and he said he doesn't think what you said is a big deal at all not at least not for him anyway. i personally don't think what you said is that bad. You were just emphasizing how much it larger it can become which is good i think.He might be cold for another reason maybe a bad day?Just be careful next time what you say and try to put this behind you.
All the best!
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reader, CMMP  +, writes (18 July 2013):
For future reference, unless your boyfriend has an 8 inch penis, it's probably best to think very carefully about mentioning it.
He's probably fine, so I wouldn't worry about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 July 2013): Here in the States to be called a "grower," is considered a high compliment. Surprise, Surprise!!! Who would have guessed?
He may be a little put off, because of your implication that it is "small" until it grows. That could put a little dent in his ego. Just don't make a big deal of it. Don't bring it up again unless he does. It will fade. No biggy!
He will not grow any extra-length as a result of intimacy. What he has is hereditary. He is one of the fortunate few who confirms the old adage "I'm a grower not a shower."
He's okay. His ego is a little bruised; because his girlfriend thinks he has a tinee weiner. The second part about how big it is has to sink in. He just can't deal with the fact you made a comparison between soft and hard.
That's a "wee" no no!
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