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writes:What would you do if you found a message from a female friend who sent "you would be lucky if you were my bf. I don't make you buy me things" to your bf? Fyi I happened to be with him when she texted and saw what she texted, and he allowed me to see what he was replying her. I was angry, in part because I feel she doesn't respect his relationship. By making that statement, she is implying he isn't lucky at the moment to have me as a gf and he should be with her. She is also implying that I make my bf buy me things when I don't!! Not sure if I interpreted her message the wrong way though, because I let him know how I felt reading her text but he responded by telling me he knows her better than me and that this is just the way she texted and got angry with me. Any advice?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2014): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi honeypie my bf and I have been going out for a year already. His reply was simply an 'ok' and he changed the topic, although I felt that he would have said more, as the first anonymous reader had suggested. I feel that she is putting me down as well I don't know her deal though because she has a bf herself.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (12 November 2014):
 Like the FIRST anon female mentioned, ALL SHE knows about the relationships is what YOUR BF is telling her. So if she seems to think HE is BUYING you stuff constantly... then she must have gotten that idea SOMEWHERE (hint - your BF). Now it could ALSO be HER taking something your BF had said in the past - like he bought you something, or paid for dinner and she is TWISTING it into "he is paying for everything" because it makes HER look "better" then you.
The fact that she is also texing your BF that he would be "lucky" to date her is HER telling him, she is interested in him as more then a friend. She is telling him she really doesn't GIVE a fly's fart about the relationship he has with you.
It's NOT just the way she texts... It's the way she disrespects you. HE is protective of her, because he DOES like her "pining" after him.
My question is twofold, how long have you been dating and what was his reply to her text?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2014): All the info / perceptions of your relationship she has comes from your bf.
If he thought she was mistaken, he should have said 'oh but I'm a very lucky man. I'm happy with my girlfriend and wouldn't change a thing about her'. He should establish boundaries with his friends and it it is not cool for him to let things like this slide. That's indirectly saying she can disrespect you and your relationship.
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