A
male
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:I have been married for just over 2 years. Love my wife, never want to let her down. I can't get over my first love, although we haven't been together in 10 years. We are still friends and chat very often, however we have not even seen each other in over 2 years. She is also happily married and never wants to let her husband down. We speak freely about our feelings for each other, and she agrees we both should have married each other. We also have a new agreement that if we are ever both single again we will get together.I have never cheated on my wife, and I don't want to cheat on her. But I often feel I made a mistake and married the "wrong girl". I don't know who to talk to about this. My wife knows I talk to my ex, but doesn't know we talk as often as we do, and she has no clue we talk often about our feelings for each other.I don't really have anyone to talk to about this. I don't think anyone will understand. Should I pursue things further with my ex? Should I break off all conversation with her? Is there a happy medium?
View related questions:
cheated on my wife, my ex Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2008): You guys are messed up.
You're wasting your wife's time and life. If you don't want her, then leave her. In fact, fill her in and I guarantee she'll leave you no problem.
So you know, you don't love your wife. Maybe like a friend, sure, but not as someone you were supposed to love and cherish. You are so messed up and I feel bad for you because you don't even have a clue.
If your ex wants you so bad and you her, why not just decide to split each other's spouses? Kind of doesn't make any sense. I mean, you want her so badly, don't you? You talk to her about it all the time and she you and yet you're both still wasting 2 other human being's lives?
Maybe you should think with your head. If your ex was the "right" girl, why is she your ex?
A
reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2008): Sadly there is no happy medium. I am currently having an affair with my spouse's permission (shorten version: bad marriage led to talk with spouse about wanting other lovers spouse agreed). You are going to end up doing something eventually with this other woman or your wife will find out about the chats. So either tell your wife and work from there or decide to leave your wife and go from there. Tough decision but the sooner the better which is why I told my spouse I wanted another lover I knew that this guy and I would end up sleeping together and before it went further I wanted him to know so he wouldn't get hurt. So good luck!
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2008): I think you'd better break it off with your ex. It really isn't right what you are doing, and you are headed into very dangerous territory. Sorry, but you have to choose, you can't have both. If you feel that strongly that you made the wrong decision, then the best thing you can do is get out, and stop "almost cheating" on your wife. Because that's what you are doing.
...............................
|
