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writes:i met a girl at college and she seemed to be giving me signals of interest. Anyway, her friend gave me her number and when we began texting she began the flirting and texting until almost 2am on college night (something i wouldn’t expect friends to do on a college night). her friends would also keep looking at me but she couldn’t face to face, even when she was facing me. One friend looked at both of us and smiled. The fact her friend gave me her number, my support teacher says it shows her friends trying to play cupid. however whilst texting i thought it would be clever to mention a girl i had been talking to (i was just seeing how she felt about me) and i said that this girl thought we were getiing too close and didnt want me talking to you so much and she said " haha xxxx sounds like a fuc*king weirdo, we dont talk much. god what a loser but obviously dont talk to me then babe"Now to the question: There was one time towards the end of the academic year i came into the canteen and it appeared she was waiting for me. She was sitting on a table with her 2 friends with no food or packed lunch and wasn’t in a hurry to order anything. I then queued up so i could buy my lunch and as soon as I did so, her and one of her mates came into the back of the queue behind me. When I looked round to talk to my friend, I noticed she had her back to me, which in my opinion appears to mean she is shy. So i proceeded in the queue and I turned round to talk to my friend again and this time she was facing me and I noticed she was looking at me. I looked at her and we held eye contact for about 5 or 6 secs in a deep, intense way where it felt like we were the only two in the room and her eyes were big, like dilated. Also, after about 3 secs of the eye contact my mind (I think intuition) said “yeah she likes you ". I then turned my back on her and when i looked round again she appeared like she was embarrassed and was over acting in looking at the foods etc. it just seemed like she felt humiliated. so I paid for my food and turned round to talk to my friend again and she again was looking at me. I then looked at her and again we held eye contact for another 5 or 6 seconds and again in a deep prolonged way, again her eyes seemed dilated and I noticed her eyes appeared sparkling. anyways I turned my back again and when i Tried to text her she was very angry and said " oh if i wanted to talk to you I would" and if that was the case I'm pretty sure she wouldn’t wait for me or try to be close to me if she hated me. Plus after she said that when i next saw her in the hallway, she wouldn’t look round at me but her friend did, which means she’s doing it for her friend. so we had an argument and this year she has new friends and she has now told them about me too like she did her friends last semester. I gave her a xmas card and she text me which shows she’s still got my number even after the argument and didn’t delete it. Then I saw her in college a few weeks later her friends looked round at me as they walked past me but she couldn’t look at me.We finished the year, i then saw her new semester and she ran into the toilet. then i saw her again a week later and this time she has told her new friends about me, before they weren’t interested and then they started looking round at me now they are even looking at m but she can’t, even when facing me she can’t look at me. one of her friends had their back to me, then she turned her body round and faced me, and just looked at me... not laughing or mocking me, but a serious way... like she’s trying to say something to me Also, when I first saw her this new semester she panicked and ran into the toilet. i sent her a card at xmas and she text me showing she never did delete my number. However, i gave it to my support worker to give to her. My support worker said she wasn’t in, so she checks on the college computer and added her address to my card and posted it to her house. She has since text me asking if i sent her a xmas card which shows she never deleted my number.So i am worried she will think I’m a bad person and am yet to text back. i worries she might get nasty, though my support teacher and friends said unlikely because if she has the slightest idea it was you she wouldn’t ask if you sent it but would just be nasty. So what's the score ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2011): There are so many signals going back and forth it's hard to know what's going on. I wonder if you are over analyzing every glance or gesture. The only way to get this moving on is to ask her out. Risk rejection ok, but things are not going to progress otherwise. Text her and suggest a coffee or something very casual. Take a chance. Then you will know. Sometimes in life you just have to take a chance or forever wonder.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (8 January 2011):
 Ok well it does sound to me like she does like you but that she is just really shy. Also when you mentioned the other girls name she obvious took that as a hint that you werent interested in her therefore she got defensive and told you she didnt want to speak to you.
Do you like this girl? If you do text her back and tell her how you feel. Your better being honest with her am not sure why you think she will get nasty towards you, you have done nothing wrong to this girl. So if you like her text her back and tell her that yes you sent her the christmas card and tell her how you feel about her and give her the oppertunity then to see how she feels about you.
Goodluck.
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