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writes:Ok so my best friend is having a Big problem... she likes this guy. She and this other girl were competing for his attention/ being his GF. Anyways it turns out he was deciding between the two of them and before he could the other girl made the first move. Now my BFF is stuck in (I analyzed as) intense like... It is all she thinks about and it's making her sick... I feel bad for her because not only is she dealing with this alone but she has to pretend nothings wrong when she's around him and the skank who took him. I told her she can only get over him, break them up, or wait till they break up and swoop in. Unfortunately she's going through with the last approach and its again torturing her. Did I tell her the right thing? Is there anything I can do or say to help her? What do you think... help... I can't go on hearing her crying... : (
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (8 April 2009):
 Help her get over him. He obviously wasn't for her. If he had really been interested he would not have sat on his hands going enie, meanie, minie, moe...
I bet he enjoyed having two girls "fight" for his attention.
Breaking up someone else's relationship will lead to night good. Drama, heart-ache ... There truly are other fish in the sea. Maybe next time she will find a guy who is really interested in HER.
PS. the other "skank/girl" didn't "take" him. He chose her.
You friend deserves a better guy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2009): I agree with the first response. If he wanted to be with her he wouldn't have agreed to go out with the other girl. And frankly, is that the guy she really wants to be with? I know it's rough but it's definitely in her best interest to move on and find a guy who only has eyes for her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2009): I think that the best advice you could have given her is to work at getting over him. Breaking them up never works, or even if it might break them up, it's not the basis for a good relationship. Waiting around won't help. Even if he does break up with her, he will be on the rebound, or may not be interested in your friend anymore at all.
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