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writes:Hi there! Ok, I've gone out with this guy a few times. We have lots to talk about and joke around, talk sports, and have driven out for late, late night food cravings. I'm a little tomboyish.. guys love it! But this guy I'm soooo into... he text, calls me, gone out on dates.. But did I end up becoming a good friend and not girlfriend material?
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reader, dearkelja +, writes (3 January 2009):
 I agree with Britt. He is being cautious. The statement that he gets in relationships too quickly means that this time he is taking his time to really get to know you before he puts his whole heart in it. That actually is a very self realized thing to say.
I have learned that the relationships that start with a bang end with a bang. The relationships that go slow endure. So, don't rush things.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2009): In reply to your most recent follow-up, I think he is just being cautious. He wants to really be sure you are the one. Be patient with him. It sounds as though he has learned from his mistakes and doesn't want to make another one. Just continue being your lovely self and in time things will probably work out in your favor! I would still kiss him given the opportunity!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2009): Some of the best relationships start out as friendships. Does he talk about other women when he is out with you or does he treat you like a girlfriend?
It's okay to let him know how you feel. Or you could kiss him out of the blue when he is not expecting it, see how he reacts. You could always laugh it off as a friendship thing if he doesn't react your way, but I have a feeling you will be pleasantly surprised.
I believe a man and a woman could be "just friends" with no hidden agendas or ulteria motives. However, most guys that I have talked to on this subject disagree. They feel it will always lead to sex or if not the guy will give up. But then again it could've been the kind of guys I used to travel with in my past. I think it was probably their screwed up way of thinking. I'm sure of it now that I think about it...anyway, don't be afraid to test the waters...and if that doesn't help you, then just tell him your true feelings!
Good Luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNo, I've noticed that he's very, very respectful. But still c'mon! LolWe talk, and talk about our likes and dislikes..but he never brings up his past relationships. Just once he did mention..'I realized I get in relationships too quickly and end up finding out who they truly are in the long run, and it's not pretty.'He knows a little about my recent break-up..almost (2) months ago. We talked that night..then he went on and asked me out officially on our first date!
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reader, dearkelja +, writes (2 January 2009):
Has he tried to kiss you? Does he talk about his girlfriends with you? It is never too late to change things. Try flirting. If all else fails, then you will have to ask him "if he thinks of you as a friend and if he's ever thought of you romantically." Yes, that is a lot for a guy to take on but sometimes knowing is good too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionBtw..I dress girly but can always carry on a good conversation with a guy about sports or just anything. I guess growing up with my guy cousins' has a lot to do with it. Plus, it's my personality!
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