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writes: I was seeing a man who lives with his 18 year month twin boys and he still lives with his kids mother.He told me they have broken up but staying together for financial reasons for now. Well he wouldn't see me outside working hours so I called him out on it. He said he would want to spend more time with me but its hard because of his kids. So i broke it off beacuse i thought it was because he was still in a relationship with his kids mother hence why he cant see me outside his work hours. So of he were truly single and live seperately from his kids mother,would he had been able to see me outside work hours despite having children?I know they will always come first but what about when the ex get the kids for the weekend then he would be free to spend time with me right? Reply to this Question
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (24 April 2018):
 It sounds like for whatever reason he was trying to keep you a secret. It doesn't sound like he is ready to date anyone and he is spending all his time with his children and their mother at the moment. I wouldn't date him unless he was in a separate house to his ex. It sounds like you have made the right choice.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (23 April 2018):
 His top priority is his kids. If he is so financially bad that he HAS to live with his ex, then he isn't really ready to date. Because he still have to rely on HER good graces and staying amicable with her.
People who have split up, but still depend on each other are not REALLY getting over each other. They might not be romantically involved but, HIS kids and HER are a higher priority than anyone he is dating.
So yes, date someone who can actually commit to you. Who can make you a priority.
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