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writes: Dear Shania, I want ur advise, i have met through from a fantastic young lady who i have fallen deeply in love with, she is beautiful, intelligent, elegant and sophisticated. i know she is married with 2 wonderful children and she loves her family which i respect very much, i have so much to offer her in friendship and sincere love, but respect her family security. i feel she is stating to play with me as u do a small kitten with a string, should i drop her immediatly and move on to what maybe second best?? i am highly qualified, with infinite experience and aware of the world.. if i move on, i feel we both will eventually regret it....what do u advise me....robocop
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2006): She's MARRIED. Leave it alone, if you do in fact respect her!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2006): Hey there Robocop... That was a rather violent movie - with all the hands being blown off, robots breaking human bones, missiles...
Anyway, there are a few things you left out in your thread: 1) How long ago did you meet her? 2) How did you meet her? 3) Why do you think she is playing with you? 4) What makes u feel that you are definitely in love with her?
Now my comments coinciding my questions:
1) I know time isn't as relevant as experience between two possible lovers, but time does gauge how deep your love for her is. Time can be a good indication whether you lust after her in an infatuated sort of way, or if you are obsessive, or if u do actually love her, and so on.
2) Considering so many people here on DC.org have 'met' their considerable others through the net, my question is actually very important. If you however, met her in person, then did u get the chance to experience her on a daily/weekly basis? Did you get the chance to relate to her reactions and actions? How did she connect with u and how did u connect with her? How about all the little things like how she eats, how she dresses, how she walks, how she looks at things, how she talks, and so on?
If you haven't met her in person, then how can you truly know that she is someone you love? What basis do u have for that love? Talk is cheap - really really really cheap. That is apparent throughout DC.org. Guys and girls saying "I love you, we are meant for each other" doesn't mean damn, unless action has been expressed.
3) You haven't posted why u think she is playing with you. A few things would be nice.
4) This is actually a part of #2.
Anyway, here is another question to do with your comment: Why are you highly qualified? What makes u think you have infinite experience and are aware of the world? I've met people from a few minutes young all the way to 90+ years old. I can tell u that there is no 'high-qualification' in experience based on age. A lot of the people with problems here on DC.org range from early teens to mid 40's with maturity either 'beyond their years' or immaturity way below their years.
So there you go. A few answers would be nice...
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reader, shania  +, writes (20 July 2006):
 Are you sure you are not in love with a fantasy?...You haven't met this lady so unless you were having a proper relationship it would be a bit too soon to confess your love for her.You say she is married so that makes it more complicated? and what about you?...are you single? The only thing i can advise you on is either she wants to leave her husband for you and that way you can continue the relationship or you leave it and look for someone who is not attached,easier said then done i know but some people would call it infatuation?
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