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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I've been dating a sweet, genuine guy for about 5 weeks. During the first few weeks he was always initiating conversations throughout the day and towards the middle it evened out between us. We had a make out session this past weekend however I made it obvious I wasn't comfortable going any further at the moment. Since then he's still initiating conversations but taking hours to text back. A couple times I replied around dinnertime and he replies the next morning. He's a very physical person and I'm afraid I may have given him the wrong impression that I'm not interested in him physically. I am, I'm just not ready yet. He's an INFP personality type. When I left that evening he asked me to a movie next weekend (he's on a trip this weekend) but we haven't made solid plans yet. I don't need my SO to be a big texter but his sudden change in communication pattern makes me feel insecure. I really like him. Did my behavior during our date turn him off? Or has he become comfortable? Our quality time together is/was undeniably wonderful. I like taking the physical part of the relationship slowly however I feel like most people do not at my age (25). He is 26.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (14 March 2016):
 Don't feel insecure about it. Either he has been busy or else you might need to face the fact that he is looking for a physical relationship.
It has only been five weeks so I can see why you don't want to rush in to the sexual part, and if he does like you well then he will wait until you are ready. If he puts any pressure on you, then he is not the right man for you.
Try not to over think things, it is okay to tell him you like him but you are wanting to wait before having sex. Just be honest with him, no point wondering whats and ifs just tell him how you feel and at least then you both know where you stand.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (14 March 2016):
 No, none of that. He's on a trip so he would be checking his phone less frequently. Women who are not interested in a guy physically simply would not go on a second date. They would not say they are not ready. I think he understands that. You sound like you two have a good thing going on. I guessing that once he comes back he will say that he misses you. It will also be a good time to express your deep feelings to each other.
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