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female
age
41-50,
*ewlysingle
writes:My ex husband and I were high school sweethearts, I was only 16 when we started dating. I never dated anyone besides him. We recently parted and I'm nervous about dating. What type of rules go with dating now? I've been chatting with a guy from our town who is also divorced. We went out to dinner last week and have been texting a lot but now what? And my mind is racing with a million question when it comes to Sex I've had five kids so I have stretch marks and a csection scar. How do I get comfortableIn my own skin again. I feel like I'm 16 all over again when it comesTo dating . Any advice would be great
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (27 March 2017):
 Don't have sex with him until you are comfortable around him. Every woman who has had children has stretch marks, a lot of people have scars. But generally for me sex is with someone who you care about and scars and stretch marks shouldn't come in to it. I understand why you are insecure about it and uncomfortable, I mean after all you are pretty much new to the dating scene. All I can say is take it slow and don't have sex with him until you feel ready.
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reader, chachacha  +, writes (16 March 2017):
Well what is it you are looking for?
If you have five children (and given your age, presumably at least some of them are still living with you), you just be very busy.
Do you want companionship? Someone to talk to? It sounds like your dinner with the guy was successful and it sounds like you are enjoying texting.
Why not just take it as it comes?
Sex is not the most important part of a relationship, and you'll know when it's right for you. If you're thinking that you will be uncomfortable because you have stretch marks, then you are not ready. It takes time to build trust in someone, so wait until you really feel that he cares for you, so much so that you are confident that he will not notice or care about some silly stretch marks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2017): There is no set rules because all people and relationships are diffrent. But if a guy doesn't accept how you look or act then there not the one for you. If they have a problem with it that's there problem and you'll find someone who likes you the way you are.
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