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writes:Case 1:I met a guy in my university (in a rehearsal in music society) one week ago. He was quite nice and friendly.I introduced myself and we talked a bit. After we have finished our first rehearsal, all of us (members) had a social in a bar. This guy approached me and he pointed at the pool table and asked me(he smiled and he was friendly),"do you want to play the pool?I can teach you" I said "ah..okay". Later, he approached me again and asked me,"i can compose music. You can come to my room (he lives on campus) next time and I'll show you my works". I was like "umm..." Later on,he said this to me again.Case 2:I met a guy 10 days ago.Both of us can play piano and we talk about music a lot.He asked me my phone number,and he phoned me that night asking me whether I'd be free.I said yes.Then he asked me to go to his house and to have dinner with him.He said he would cook for me.I eventually went to his house and we had dinner together.I just want to know whether these are dates or these guys are just friendly?What do you think about case 1 and case 2? Dates or just being friendly?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your answer :-)Well,I want to date the guy in Case 1.
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reader, Who  +, writes (23 December 2010):
 Dates. In both cases.Do either of these guys invite guy mates to do the things they are inviting you to do? If not what you are describing are dates. Now for a question you did not ask. Do you want to date either of these guys?If not I think you need to politely decline their invites, and say you would like to be friends. If yes I think you need to decide what you want out of the relationship, and be ready to discuss that with them when the time comes. Until then they seem to be talking the active role, and if you are OK with that just let it continue. If you want to be more active you can call them or walk up to them and start a conversation.Also, if you are not “going steady” there is no reason you cannot casually date a couple of guys at the same time. If one of the guys objects to this, you two need to talk about if you both want an exclusive relationship, and what your expectations are.
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