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writes:So you landed the date that you wanted with the person that captured your interest. How should you plan it to make sure things go well? Make sure you set up a simple checklist.Here's what you can include:#1. Choice of Clothes and Accessories. Show your unique style, but be careful not to choose something that's too loud or flashy. It can be distracting- and may not get the positive attention that you expected. Get advice from a friend (one who has good fashion sense), stylist, clothes store worker, or any professional that you feel can help you look your best. #2. Where to go. Make sure that you know what the person you're talking to is interested in doing...and be sure that he/she knows the things that you like to do. With that type of information you both can set up a nice date without doing something you (or your date) wouldn't really enjoy. So save the spontaneity for future dates.#3. When you'll show up. Always arrive at least 10 minutes earlier than the time of your date. This shows that you're interested, you're considerate, and also you can determine how long it takes the person you're dating to arrive.If there's anything else you would like to add on your checklist, be sure to include it. You only get one first date with an individual. Do whatever you can on your part to make sure everything runs smoothly. Reply to this Article
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reader, Daniel the love doctor +, writes (22 August 2011):
Daniel the love doctor is verified as being by the original poster of the question Chigirl, I must have been tired yesterday when I posted my comments. I left out an important word. :^) Let me correct myself on this comment by saying that it's important to know WHEN and WHEN NOT TO touch. Thanks again for your comment!
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reader, Daniel the love doctor +, writes (22 August 2011):
Daniel the love doctor is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi Chigirl! You bring up some great pointers. I in fact, agree with everything that you're saying- and I actually mentioned the importance of knowing when and when to touch in many of my comments. Thanks for providing your thoughts!
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (21 August 2011):
 Coming from a recent date, here's one thing not to do: rushing it.
You don't want to come off as desperate, so keep your hands to yourself. A greeting hug can be acceptable if your date initiates it, otherwise do not engage in physical contact unless your date either initiates or shows appreciation for it. Don't try to hold hands, or kiss, or touch her thigh. Too much physical contact just makes you look desperate, and like all you want is a one night stand.
Play it COOL. Desperation is a huge turn off, so do not try to act like you're in a relationship already, it's just the first date after all! You barely know each other. There's a happy medium of course, but showing affection is something you primarily do while in a relationship, not on first dates. It goes without saying that you don't start to refer to your date as your boy/girlfriend, or talk about a future together.
If all goes well, meet up another time and let things progress at a comfortable pace. Sensible people take their time to get to know each other.
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