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writes: Hi Please help im 22years old and have been sleeping with a guy for about 3years. We have been though alot together but have never actually dated. He has had a very hard life and things have happened that he cant get over. A few days ago he said something that has made me worry about what he might do to himself. I love him to bits and need 2 tell him that i care. Do you think that if i wrote him a letter explaining he would think it was stupid. With him being a guy? please help im desperate to help him get better i couldnt bare it if anthing happened to him. Reply to this Question
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reader, Ms. Tanya +, writes (5 September 2006):
 First off I'm sorry that he's so depressed, it must be enormously difficult for you to stand by and watch him struggle with his past life.
Writeing him a letter is a good thing. Also, try this give him a message and talk to him just tell him how much you love him and how much you care, tell him exactly how you feel, tell him how gutted and devistated you'd be if he ever left you, tell him he's on your mind 24/7. (etc.) Those words along with you gentle caressing him could get through to him. Also it sounds like he has tramatizing things that have happened to him in the past, you know what beats a counciler for a guy everytime? A beuatiful sympathedic women with her arms around him looking deep into his eyes helping him with his troubles. So ask him if he wants to talk about these things that have happened to him.
And I don't know if it's anywhere near this serious, but look at these : http://spyc.sanpedro.com/danger.htm Types of sites to help you help him.
Best of luck to you,
~Ms. Tanya
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2006): If you feel concern for him, and are afraid he might hurt himself, by all means send a letter. Emphasize that you DO care about him, and perhaps encourage him to seek professional help.
An understanding, non-judgmemental, caring note from you can't hurt, and will be appreciated. I don't think he would think it was stupid.
Thing is, he needs professional help to deal with things that have happened in his life. Encourage him to seek it, and let him know you support him, in whatever ways he wants you to!
Good luck
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