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writes:For starters I have been single for about a year now... my best friend joined a online dating website fore gits and shiggles. well she found a wonderful guy and they have been together for quite some time.. i got bored about a month ago and thought why not.I signed up and of course there were a lot of creeps and perverts on there but then one stood out. He is in the military and is stationed 2 hours away from where i live. we started chatting online. then after a couple of days it turned into video chat and Im talking 5 hours at a time. (face to face) after a 2 weeks of that we wanted to meet in person. So he drove 2 hours to my city just to have dinner with me.. (I was playing it safe with no address to my house and letting my friend know what was going on).. just being safe. Well I have never felt a connection with someone so fast in my entire life! Im 23 and have come across quite a few people. never acting as much as a gentleman and respectful to me as he did. next weekend he came to my house due to not really being able to hang out on base. My brother would flip out if he knew i met someone online. so I have 2 questions first is there really such thing as love at first sight because we could see a legitimate future together. has anyone else out there ever hit it off that fast with someone they barely know and have met online?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2013): I actually do believe in love at first sight. Or at least for me, it's more like knowing that I will eventually fall in love with them, at first sight, if that makes any sense at all. Loving someone takes time and getting to know them. And on a couple of occasions in my life, I've met someone, and just had such a strong connection, that I knew I'd fall in love with them given some time. Maybe that's how you feel, too? It's an awesome feeling.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (28 January 2013):
You won't know if it was love at first sight until you have been dating for a couple of years and things are still going beautifully. Anything before that is called lust at first sight and it happens to people all the time.
I just answered a question about this and the girl's perfect guy turned out to be pretty normal after all.
Just don't let these strong emotions cause you to make bad decisions... Let things go at a normal pace. Don't start talking about the future, don't start living with him, don't do anything other than get to know him at a normal, non-accelerated pace. If he's still Mr. Right then you'll be strengthening your relationship instead of forcing it and things will go great for you.
Trust me, dear cupid is littered with questions from people who rushed into things with the "perfect" person.
I may sound pessimistic, but that's not my intention, you may very well be with the guy you'll end up happy with for the rest of your life. It's just that it's literally impossible to know that at this point, and assuming he's "the one" can cause you plenty of problems if you move too fast.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (27 January 2013):
 I have felt a few love at first sights with apparently attractive men but they are not good indicators of whether a relationship will last. There are indeed creeps out there but most know how to put on the best impression on the first few dates. I do think that initial spark is important though because as you get comfortable with each other you have that spark to fall back on to reignite again.
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