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anonymous
writes:Are some people just not relationship material?I have never had a girlfriend and i am tired of getting rejected. I am not physically attractive, charismatic nor book smart. I do not have money and i don't like going out to parties and i don't drink. I don't think i have anything to offer and feel i should just give up the chase and spare myself the pain and humiliation of being rejected time and time again.
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reader, femmefemale +, writes (22 February 2013):
Don't beat yourself up, maybe if you try to gain some confidence in yourself and love yourself you will begin to have better success with women.
I think you should focus on working on your self esteem and learning what it means to love yourself first before you pursue a relationship, I'm sure you have a lot to offer.
good luck
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reader, femmefemale +, writes (22 February 2013):
Your problem is that you don't think very highly of yourself so when you meet women you can't offer or show them what is good about you. I went through something similar and learned I must love myself before I can attract someone who will be good for me and before I can show someone real love.My advice is write a list (maybe in a journal)frequently, everyday, once a week or whatever about what is good about you, in the beginning it may be hard but as time goes on it will get easier.Also start speaking to yourself and about yourself in a positive way. Be conscious of what you say about yourself, if its negative erase it from your thoughts and replace it with positivity. Fake it if you have to, and fuck modesty eventually you will start to feel better about yourself. if for example you like your height tell yourself your height is perfect. At the end of your day write down a list of everything you did well that day. Write down everything even if its little such as you brushed your teeth. congratulate yourself on it because technically you didn't have to brush your teeth on that day, there's no law that says you must LOL.My last piece of advice is write down a list of the type of things you would expect the woman who loves you to do for you and the type of things she would advise you to do in order to bring out the best in you... and do everything on that list for yourself. e.g. if your partner would advise you to work hard and reach your potential at school/work then do it, if your partner would encourage you to eat healthily and exercise do it.Sorry for the long message but darling please learn to love yourself. When you truelly love yourself a good woman will come to you she may even come to you during the process.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2013): My advice to you is to focus on something you like to do most, and work on yourself, either physically or mentally, or better yet, focus on achieving other goals in life. But most importantly, don't think about it, enjoy life as you want, and you will see UNEXPECTED things coming for you slowly on the run...
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reader, NORA B  +, writes (22 February 2013):
You are very hard on youself just remember that everyone has something special to offer to that special person.Join mixed groups,start a new course,and try not to stress out about this situation .Make friends with girlds first and try and read the signs if the girl is interested in you as a friend or boyfriend.Dont make any hard decision on giving up the dating scene. Give it time and in the meantime enjoy life. Best Luck Nora B.
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