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writes:Hello all! Im not having a relationship problem,thankfully.But im here seeking some insight into something that I know nothing about.I was talking to my boyfriend last night.I asked what he was up to,and he was online reading about tantric sex.Ive never heard of this before,he said that it is supposed to connect peoples souls with physical contact? It sounds like a very nice idea....especially coming from a man!We all know men arent always worried much about connecting better,as long as they are getting some! We got onto another subject and I really havent gotten the chance to ask anything else about it with him. Im curious how this works.I googled it,and it brings up a lot of jibberish to be quite honest.So,in plain terms....does this really work? And how? I guess since he was reading up on it,theres a possibility of the subject coming up.Id like to have more of an idea of what it is. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2009): The best introduction to Tantric sex is "The Art of Sexual Ecstasy" by Margo Anand, it explains things very simply and has tons of excersises that partners can carry out together.
Many people are too caught up with their own personal hangups to really let go and enjoy sex completely. Durring sex they are thinking more about previous relationships, or rushing to gain orgasms. They think that sex should be about trying more and more sexual positions, extreme sexual fantasies, or trying to act like a porn star. Body issues and insecurity makes them feel self conscious. Sex becomes an assault course, it's hard to just lay back, relax and enjoy yourself. Some people are too self conscious to just enjoy sex and think only about whether they are too fat or skinny, whether they are moving right, or they worry that their partner may not be enjoying themselvezs. Tantric sex puts a stop to all that. It allows you to stop thinking and just start feeling again.
If your boyfriend is thinking about this type of sex, he seems a very nice man and wants to please you and make you enjoy sex and develop greater intimacy with him. I wish you both luck, your a lucky woman. Blessings.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2009): Mainly a spriritual form of sex and intimacy that can last for hours on end and be very intense and meaningful for those practicing it.Its all about breathing and emotional connection and intamacy, to the point where it might seem like the two of you are joining souls.So in essence, just a way of making sex last longer.Flynn 24
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2009): Great question, it's very hard to put into words but I'll give it a try. As you said, most men don't think about maintaining a spiritual connection through sex, but this is exactly what Tartaric sex tries to do. There are a lot of techniques to do with breath control, whereby you and your boyfriend try to synchronize your breathing until it seems as if your sharing the same breath. The aim is to become totally connected physically, mentally and spiritually and deepen your connection to each other through sex. In normal sex, orgasm is the main thing. In tartaric sex it is slightly different, the rush to orgasm, the rush to have a climax is left to the side. Instead you and your boyfriend try to enjoy the sensations of just feeling the sensations of your body moving together. You tune into the beating of his heart, the feel of his skin. This takes sex to another level, and because your concentration is slightly different, you can orgasm, without actually spilling any fluids at all. That means a man has the mental and physical sensations of orgasm, but he doesn't actually release any sperm. It allows you and your partner to become multi-orgasmic, even though having an orgasm is far away from your mind. Think connection, trying to become your boyfriend, and allowing him the intimacy to become you. Afterwards you should feel more loving, less stressed and more calm. It's a wonderful fulfilling way to have sex.I've probably got it wrong, and a proper tantric expert could explain things better. But the aim is to focus on your spiritual energies rather than the pure mechanics of sex. It should leave you feeling as light as a bird, and very connected to the world and everything that exists within the universe in which we live.
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reader, ArmyMedic  +, writes (3 February 2009):
 I'm not sure. But why don't you google it, I'm sure that's where he found out.
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