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writes:Hello there,I really need help.I am a guy and I have a girlfriend who I really love.Some time ago (about a year ago) we had a bad period and in this period I started chatting.In a chatbox I met a girl and we talked on msn for a while.Now after some months chatting we started to use the webcam. And yes, I went all the way on webcam. Now I used to keep my face out of sight but at one time I was naked and she accidently catched a glimp of my face. This happened because I covered my cam with my hand but accidently I didn't cover it far enough.I got really scared. What if she has recorded it and put it on a website?She never pushed me to use the cam. We had a very nice contact and shared some sexual interests. I am pretty sure that she really was a woman. She made some pics on my request and she gave me her facebook.It is now about seven months ago that it happened. I asked her if she recorded it but she denied it. But how can I be sure? Meanwhile I deleted my msn account. Fortunately I used a fake name on msn.Everything is ok now between me and my girl, we worked everything out. But if this video got out it would ruin my life.I know that I shouldn't have gone this far on cam but I can't turn back the time (wish I could).Each day I spent looking for my video on the net. I am obsessed with the idea that there is a video of me somewhere online. I am going crazy. Can I asume that there is no video? Because it is 7 months ago and I haven't found anything yet?She told me she didn't record anything but you can never be shure. I feel so stupid that I accidently showed my face......I would like to carry on with my life and my girl but I am so scared.Please help me, I am desperate. This is becoming an obsession for me. The only good thing is the lesson learned, I will never use the webcam again.Thanx
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2012): Well,Thanks a lot for your advice. I know I have screwed up and I wish that I could turn back the time.She told me she hasn't recorded me and she actually got upset with me because I didn't trust her.I would like to believe that she did nothing because of the following reasons:- if she was fake she has done a damn good job, faking to be a girl for half a year. Pictures etc where consistent.- she herself had a boyfriend who, according to her did not know of her chatting adventures- she said that recording me would be a danger to her career if a video got out made by her.- after the "incident" she kept me on msn. Why would she do that if she had tricked me.But the major reason for my doubts is that it is still the internet....I figure that if she has me recorded, only the side of my head was visible (she said she only saw a part of my ear and glasses) so I keep my self going with the tought that if I have been recorded and someone sees it, it is hard to recognize me, especially because I used a false name.For all I know is that if you own a webcam, get rid of it! It isnt worth the stress. Even if you try to keep your face out of sight, it could go wrong.....
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2012): well she said she didn't record it, so why do you insist that there's a video of you out there? why don't you believe her?
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reader, anon-xo  +, writes (22 January 2012):
Hello :) The best offer I can give you is you shouldn't worry about it, something like this previously happened to me, luckily I didn't go all the way, but the guy I was on cam with turned out to be not so nice, stupidly he had a girlfriend and he joked he would tell everyone,.. and sure enough the word got out, I felt so worried and it really broke my self confidence, but looking back on it now I shouldn't have got myself so worried, not one person ever said anything nasty to me, people were so supportive (apart from that one guy obviously) all you can do hun is hope for the best, but is she denied that she recorded it, the best you can do for now is to believe her, just take a deep breath and try cheer up :), there is plenty other bad things out there that are worrying, this shouldn't be one of them hun,
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reader, aphexinfinite +, writes (22 January 2012):
 It is as simple as this you screwed up, and now fate will play its hand. She either A did not tape it and life is all good and well. Or she did tape it and she keeps it secretly to view herself or she will put it on a website who knows. It is now officially out of your hands. Their is absolutely nothing you can do about it. You just have to move forward with your life and say what is done is done and i will deal with the consequences IF AND WHEN they happen. Leave it at that continue with your life because worrying about it will only make you go crazy and it doesnt help anyone. OR you can own up to your girlfriend about it. i think if you let the past be the past is the better option because their isnt anything you can do about it now. Very glad you learnt your lesson on this! good luck aphex xx
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