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writes:Hi,I wrote in before about a guy I liked who I thought liked me too. I still think he likes me, and he and I have had some talks about how he treats me when he is drunk and he made huge efforts to change when I told him and I was really proud of him. I still just can't figure out why I have this feeling that he would say no to me if I asked him out. I have just always felt like it is the guys job to ask the girl out. And I know that he doesn't like pushy girls so I don't want him to think that I am that way. I have been spending a lot more alone time with him lately and just talking and stuff and we'll have fun and everything, but then the next time I see him it will be sort of awkward like we can't figure out what to say to each other. The funny thing is that everyone I know wants us to get together including his friends and even our teachers. His friends will leave us alone when we start talking at bars or they'll try to push him towards me or get me to grab his butt. It's really funny but I don't know if he is just feeling too much pressure from everyone else. I haven't said anything to him about it because I don't want to pressure him so I have just been acting like his friend. Can anyone tell me why I keep getting this feeling?
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reader, O Connor  +, writes (26 February 2008):
 well if you think he like you then go for it!! just casually suggest going for a drink or coffee - that way there is no huge amount of pressure and you can keep it light and casual. if it turns into a dinner then fair enough! but dont avoid asking him just cos your the girl! so what?!! go for it, it sounds to me like thats where your headed anyway!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2008): There is nothing wrong with a girl asking a guy out! Why wait for the blokes, we could wait forever. Got out for a drink or a meal and have a good long chat with him and discover the real person. Find out what he really wants and besides the point, just what do you want? Do you want to date him? Be forthright and ask him out if you want to be with him, dont wait for his friends to push you two together. Get in their girl.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2008): I think that you need to talk to him, life is too short to just wonder. Yes, some guys may feel that a girl is being too pushy but I know a lot of people who got together by the girl asking the guy out. I think that you shoulg just go for it! :) it could be the best thing to happen to you! I hope things go well and remember, it's not the end of the world IF he says no. It just means that he wasn't right for you. Hope this helps! :) x
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