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writes:I'm 18 and have been at uni a few months now. I'm bisexual, and within a few weeks of moving here met another bisexual girl in the year above through our LGBT soc. I made friends with her and her housemates very quickly, and also fell for her very quickly which is unusual for me - usually I take a while to get close to and fall for people.One night, under the influence, I asked her out via text - awful I know! I felt very embarrassed but she laughed it off and politely declined my advances, but saying she'd like to go out as a friend anyway. A few days later I tried to arrange a time and she became quite emphatic that this was only friendly, but I wasn't too bothered about it, at least I knew where I stood.That was a few months ago though, and I've found that over the last week and a bit, she seems to have changed her attitude towards me, although not in a bad way. Out of the blue she invited me for coffee, and we had an amazing few hours together talking about everything and anything; she even confided in me about relationships and her past. We talked so long the shop we were in closed, but she sad she didn't want to leave and asked if we could go elsewhere, and so we continued. At the end of that day our goodbye was a little awkward, like neither of us knew what to do or say...but we went separate ways.A few days ago I invited her out with some friends of ours and she came along which is rare for her - she usually never comes on nights out! We talked more and she held my hand a little while walking. We then, in true student style, went and began drinking, and we were left alone a lot of the time. She became quite 'touchy' and hugged me a lot, putting her head on my shoulder and joking around. However, I know she was drunk.I saw her again yesterday when we were both out with friends, but, feeling less confident while sober perhaps, I felt particularly nervous around her again. We talked a little and it was nice, but I didn't spend too much time around her.What strikes me the most is during our coffee she mentioned it takes her a while to realise she likes people. However, she also said I've never seen her around anyone she likes and that she believes she makes it too obvious. I chatted with her best friend yesterday who dropped into conversation that this girl had mentioned I was funny, chilled and lovely to be around. I just can't help thinking she acts a little differently compared to the previous few weeks, and things like inviting me for coffee and her drunken 'behaviour' were all out of character for her.I know I'm probably reading into this too much, but I want an honest opinion from somebody! I don't want to be direct with her as she's a great friend and I don't want to spoil it, what's the point? However, could I be missing out on something here?
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reader, Plumb  +, writes (29 November 2012):
 Like you said she could be seeing you in a new light. I know you don't want to ruin the friendship but I really do think the best thing to do is ask her if she likes you. Seeing as you two are getting close I don't think it'd ruin the friendship. Plus she does seem to be giving you signals or at least that's what I got from it. I hope everything works out :)
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