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anonymous
writes:I have a crush on one of my friends and I told her the other day. She told me she didn't return the feelings but I wasn't expecting it because she had a boyfriend. I just wanted to get it off my chest because she's too good of a friend to keep things from. Luckily, it didn't make anything awkward between us, something I didn't think would happen which is why I went ahead and told her. The problem though, its had quite the opposite effect. My group of friends are very cuddly people, but since I told her she's been doing things she never did before while we cuddled. The other night she ran her hands up and down my arm or side and played with my fingers, which to me usually means someone wants to hold my hand... so I threaded my fingers with hers and I got no objection. I tried this again today, however this time in complete daylight and public. She just held my hand, didn't push me away or anything.I'm really very confused about what her feelings really are. I know she has a boyfriend and all... but more than anything I want her as my own. Could her actions mean she has feelings for me too even though she said otherwise?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you, but this weekend we had a long conversation and it turns out it was more than just flirting. She does have feelings for me and had lied to keep from hurting me because she also likes her boyfriend. It seems male anonymous had the right idea about saying vs doing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2008): I will be interested to see if any female readers agree with me on this, you shouldnt pay too much attention to a what a female says, you should watch what they do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2008): It appears your friend is flirting and playing with you, a bit. Nothing more. A woman knows and likes to exercise her feminine wiles and sexual power over another guy. It's a huge ego boost. She likes that you like her, but that's about it. The reason I say that is because if she wanted to date you, it would be 'bye bye' boyfriend and she'd be by your side right now. Open your eyes, and take all this at face value and stop the hand holding, hugging because the more she does this to you, the more you could convince yourself, she likes you back. My suggestion: Wait until she is totally unattached to her bf before you make the moves on her. But...it may be a long wait because she is not that serious...so I suggest you find someone else to capture your interest, for now.
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