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writes:I am in a bit of a situation and somehow not sure how to go about dealing with it. Someone was recently employed where I work and had to assist him in a lot of things when it came to ensuring that he settled in. To my ignorance, he then started going out of his way and flirting with me which I deemed as being innocent as I thought he was just been sweet. About a week ago, he then started acting really strange towards me as though he was nervous around me. He could not even look me in the eye...for a while, I was still slow but eventually opened myself to the posibility that he may like me. I have just found out that he is engaged and has told some of his friends that he is confused and does not know what to do. My thing is, I have told him to speak to me if anything is bothering him but he kept insisting that nothing is wrong but I know that Its not true and I am tired of trying to figure out whats going on in his head. I dont want to be the one always asking him and have decided to completely ignore him as this is starting to affect our relationship at work. Could he have fallen for me or am I reading too much into this???
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi All. Thank you so much for all the advice...it helped a lot. I ignored him most of the time ever since and have decreased the amount of time I spent with him. He has been himself for the last few days so much that he is able to hold a decent conversation with me which he couldnt before. I am not sure what his intentions are but he keeps hinting something that I cant quite put my finger on. First,the anger everytime I seem to be taking less notice of him then ignoring me as well. My decision is that I am not going to settle for anything such as being someone's no 2 when I am my own number one. I will keep things proffessional and keep my distance. I work with him most of the time and will ensure that our contact is only work related. Whatever issues he has in his relationship have nothing to do with me. So to all the ladies, A committed man will only give you so much and almost in all the cases, never leave their partners for you...even if they do, will you ever trust them??? Thanks so much once again
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reader, boo22  +, writes (25 June 2010):
 Hi , he probably does like you and my advice is to do nothing except be your normal lovely self and wait for him to come to you.If a guy wants to see you or talk to you, he's there!! You don't have to force it, let it happen naturally.Don't become his relationship psychiatrist either if you like him, it's bad for your ego. Keep your eyes peeled for other available men, good luck x
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reader, Honeygirl +, writes (25 June 2010):
 Hun, if this man is engaged to another woman then he is off limits!! I would suggest that you keep your distance.If he is confused then he has to sort out his own mind, it really should not involve you. If he has concerns about now getting married, then he must talk to the woman he is engaged to..Be very wary of getting involved..Honeygirl
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