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*urplecloud03
writes:i get the feeling that he is pushing me away but he doesnt realise it. we have been together 19 months and ive always had these little doubts in my head that sometimes something bad is happenin but ive always been wrong.i get this feeling now that he is getting over me...in my head im worried that he has found some girl at his academic level and who 'understands' him better then me...but i have no evidence or anything to back it up.we went from seeing each other 5 times a week to suddenly once a week because of uni exams...which was ok but then holidays came and for the 2 weeks he told me he had uni work to do and family stuff and had to have time with his mates...so i still only saw him once each week. now he has this assignment that he told me he was doing this week so i coudlnt see him which i was fine with because i had my own work to do. but i talked to him last nite and he had apparently been at home all day..even tho he didnt respond to any of my online messages. so then i ask what he was doing today and hes like ohh u can just drop in n pick up what u need n leave ive got to go out....turns out his assignment isnt due till next week so he didnt tell me and has planned the next 4 days all with his mates....so i asked him when i can see him next and hes like..im not sure when im free i busy with the guys. this really upsets me because he didnt ever think that i wanted to see him this week....i didnt come first and i dont think he even misses me...or the sex....im finding it hard to think he can go 3 weeks without sex and not miss me.im soo confused i think im over reacting but i needed to get it off my chest....any help? Reply to this Question
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reader, BedrockBMW  +, writes (1 May 2008):
 I've been in a similar situation.I wasted a year waiting on a guy going through the same situations you're going through, only for him to tell me that he was moving to Brazil for work, which I found out later was a lie. I'm assuming that he only told me that to get me to stop calling him or stop thinking we were still together.I think that if you start to spend more time with your friends or spend more time doing things that you like to do, you will get your answer. Either he will wonder why you aren't calling and attempt to spend time with you OR he will not try to get in touch with you. Either way, you'll have your answer.In the meantime, you'll reconnect with friends or get better at a hobby you may have. Maybe you'll even meet someone else to give your attentions to.
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