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writes: i'm only 13, and lost my father in a very very hurtful way, he was the first coxwain on the lifeboat and habour master, he saved so many lifes, he was my hero, i lost him on april 5th 2004, him and his best friend drowned saving lifes, but his body wasnt found untill the 6th, i loved him so much, he was my best friend and his work colluge i was also very close.i miss them both so much and my dads best friends body wasnt found for about a week after the accident, i use to love swimming, it was my dads pride and joy, but now i am really scared of the sea, i have been sailing for 10 years but i had to give it up after the accident, but everynight i have to cry myself to sleep and listen to all my mates talk about how great their dads are, it really upsets me! please help me! i miss my dad soo much! if you want to find out more, go on........http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/uk_news/wales/3604531.stm, and please read the comments on him like"I'll remember Keith as a very great lifeboat coxswain and a young man who ran his boat with kid gloves,""It's an awful thing for Keith's young family to know that their father's dead, now we've also got the problem of Alan's family not knowing where he is at the moment.""He was not only a colleague and a coxswain, he was a great friend to all of us." "People are standing around wanting to do something. The town is in total shock - total shock."
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2006): Oh Hun, you poor thing. It's always SO hard to lose a loved one and no matter how much advice dearcupid gives there's no way we'll ever help you overcome such a loss; especially since you're so young. Your dad is a special person to you and it's OK to cry sometimes. You'll miss him for the rest of your life, there's no doubt about that, but you'll move on and life goes on, over time. When a loved one goes you almost feel like part of you is missing; like a chunk has been taken away. No-one will replace your dad but you and your mum or any other family members need to pull through together and be strong. At least you know your dad died doing a really brave thing, going out to save someone else.
Keep mourning and grieving; it sounds an awful thing to say but when you do that it's easier to cope with the loss. Focus on doing other things, like joining new clubs and things to take your mind of things. You could also ask your friends to be a bit more considerate and tell them you still miss your dad immensely and the way they talk about their dads doesn't help.
You could call Cruse Bereavement Care on 0870 167 1677 or log onto www.crusebereavementcare.org.uk
The pain will never leave you, but it will ease over time. xxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2006): im only 14 and love my dad very much i would hate to lose him one of my best mates samuel lost his dad in a car crash his dad wasn't at home very much but he was really upset i think i know how you feel im sorry for your loss i think the best thing to do is just think of the happy times you had with him email me ([email address blocked]) if you wanna know anything else i'll talk to sam and ask how he managed to cope ok?
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