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writes: i was a (high school) freshmen and i went out with a senior this past year and a few weeks b4 he graduated he broke up with me and i dont understand why he lied about his reason for breaking up!! when he broke up with me he told me it was cuz of his parents and he was having a bad time at home. "dont take it personal" he told me. Well my friend later that day asked him why and hes like cuz im turning 18 soon and going in the army... she is getting older and hotter so next year she is gonna want a "boyfriend" not one she is never going to see. If he would get married in 5years none of his family members would go cuz im a freshmen. my friend(bff) was mad cuz she didnt beleive this.. so she called him about a week later and he said we didnt talk and hang out enough and my parents hate him cuz they didnt let me go to his house.(he wanted me to go over after school and well my parents didnt knoe we were goinjg out and so i asked my dad to go over there and he said ill let you if mom says yes. i was too scared to ask cuz i knew shed say no cuz he was a senior and she would find out i didnt tell her about him(i regret not going over there cuz i knoe if i did he wont break up with me) and if his parents didnt care if i came over why would they hate me?) his parents didnt even care that we were going out!! also he said " is temptation" what does he mean by that..(i would have with someone while he was in the army?) now he says i hate him and i dont i still really really like him. why does he tell himself i do? why didnt he just tell me we didnt talk enough when we broke up instead of blaming his parents?
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reader, Wendyg  +, writes (11 June 2006):
 Maybe he's trying to let you down gently. Hes going into the army and doesnt want you to have to wait for him. Moreover he thinks that while his away you should have someone there looking out for you and as he wont be able to he thinks you will find someone that will. Hes being considerate on one hand, but maybe hes wants to focus his time in the army on just that and not have to worry that hes got someoen back at home. hes not ready to have a commitment and needs to get this out of his system, and feels maybe you will be in the way a little. he wants to get out there and experience life, and doesnt want to hold himself back or you. take it as an opputunity to get out there yourself and live a little, meet new people gain new experiences, if when hes got the army thing out of his system he wants to come back and try again so be it, but for now move and live your life as he has chosen to do just that.
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reader, sibaan +, writes (11 June 2006):
 he is after all a male at a diificult age, where he doesnt want to settle down and doesnt want to play around, he doesnt know what he wants. so he is going to the army, wht didnt he tell you that? he is one cnfused guy who is trying to hide behind his parents and the army because he actually doesnt have a reason.dont feel bad or blame yourself. he is to blame, not you. you need to confront him and tell him exactly what you think about him and his childish way of breaking up with you.put your foot down but always keep your head up!
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