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writes: I was having sex for the first time. It was with my new girlfriend. We were going at it, and about 5 minutes in I got really nervous and completely lost my erection. I have been dwelling on it so much that it's actually killing me.WHAT DO I DO? NEED ADVICE
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2006): well this is in response to your situation but its not the answer because I am not a professional, I am a girl who wondered if the guy I was with just did not like me because it was our first time the other day and he kept losing his erection and said it was that he was nervous. So I am glad to see that it is possible that it was that he was nervous and maybe it was not becaue of me at all. So you did like this girl right.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2005): i have sufferd with the same situatin m8, just involve more sexual activity, *like fingering and stuff* then when u feel at ur best js slip it in, i remember when i asked the same advice on here a few months back and it did me a huge lot of good. so dont worry and enjoy!tomx
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2005): It's all in your head. You was probably thinking things like am I doing it right and other things like that. Just totally relax and everything will be alright. good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2005): Get your g/f to give you a Blow Job, this should get you erect again.
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (13 May 2005):
 I hope that some male readers will wade in with their own experiences and comments, but in the meantime I'll give you a female perspective. I'd just like you to know that you don't have to be embarrassed about this. Losing an erection because you're focussed on "doing it right" is so common that it has a name: Performance Anxiety.I have no doubt that it was a source of acute distress for you when it happened, but unless you now find that you can't get an erection at all (even when masturbating), then there's nothing wrong with you and you're pretty normal.The way around this in future is to make sure that you don't feel too pressured or urgent about sex with your girlfriend. Try to make sure that you have plenty of time to enjoy it and that you're both comfortable and relaxed. Don't feel like you have to be a "star player" when you're still new to the whole experience. If you haven't had a lot of experience with sex, your girlfriend will understand. Recognise that there might be times when you climax too soon, or lose your erection. So what? The good thing about erections is that they keep coming back! ;-)Enjoy. And don't worry.
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