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41-50,
anonymous
writes:PLEASE HELP!My husband freaks out at me for no reason, if I ask about porn, or masturbation. Just so you know, I love both. No issues here. :) He's denied both,over and over, even calling me crazy, and telling me I'm calling him a pervert to think something like that about him! and making me feel small for even thinking he would. I later found out he enjoys them both. A lot. Then comes the sex sites, which he blames on a friend,(who is married and known to use them.. his best friend for 5 years before he met me)using his email account.It's been a year, and he still starts arguments about the crap on the comp even tho I tried to move past it. Once he told me that he cheated and it was a one time thing, in which case right away, I jumped up and grabbed him you know where. (This was all going on when I was pregnant, and it took him months to say this, hence the reaction) Afterwards, he denied it being true, saying he only said "what I wanted to hear, and he never cheated at all." He still sticks to this even tho it's been all this time. I have to mention that herpes is involved, and he says he got it from me, since I sometimes have cold sores. I hadn't had a cold sore in almost 2 years at that time. What I want to know is, should I believe him? He's very defensive over small stuff, and gets very angry, when I ask. Also,I might add,he is 44,and was single for 12 years before me(save a 6 mos relationship) and I am 30 and not to bad in the looks dept. He says he's lucky to get someone young and pretty like me so why would he cheat? He even keeps asking to take a lie detector test! I wonder if he is acting strange because he isn't used to being in a rel. and really doesn't know much about them, or if he got stuck on sex sites because he was single for so long, and can't stop himself now. Also, sometimes he's awesome talking about sex, other times, he acts all shy and won't say anything. Please someone help!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI appreciate the answer, but I'm not fussing over porn. I'm wondering about sex hookup sites for married men/women. He was getting personal emails (not spam, I know the difference) and blamed it on his friend. He works out of town, and came home with herpes. His best friend cheats on his wife all the time with these sites, and my husband says he would never use them; that it's his friend that used his email address so his wife wouldn't find out.
Also, when you want your man to watch porn with you or masturbate in front of you cause it turns you on, and he screams at you that your a f'ing b'tch a's c'nt he can't f'ing stand you... you start to wonder...
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