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writes:I was with my ex for 2 years, but then I met a new guy. This new guy treated me right, I felt like a princess, but he wasn't ready for a new relationship, and I was still in the 2year long relationship. I became best friends with this new guy, and when things went a little sour with my boyfriend, me and this new guy started getting veryyy close. We became inseparable, without realizing we both fell in love. We even started living together for a couple of months, and it was like a fairytale love. We were always together, and the sex was the best ever for both of us, and whatever happens it won't change a thing (he said so too). Thing is, I was in another relationship so I never said to him those words: I love you! Well.. when the new guy finally was ready for us to be serieus, I told him to give me the chance to end things properly with my former boyfriend, who didn;t know anything about us. When I broke it off with my boyfriend, the new guy, which I will now call K, said that I was too late and that he couldn't wait anymore. That he loves me, but he waited too long. He said he will always feel for me. I was devastated, because I gave up everything for him, even though I was a little late. He didn't let me explain anything, and started acting cold. With time our communication went down, and he got a new girlfriend, which his mom hates. His mom loves me, but now his mom and K don't even speak anymore because of the choices K made. Time went on, and me and K broke contact.I was hurt, more than I probably ever will. Thing is, I never thought I would fall for him as hard as I did, and I realized this too late: when he walked out on me! He is and will always be my soulmate, we are 100% compatible, and I can say for sure that he will always feel something for me, even if he will never admit it. He has too much pride, always had that! He also accused me of not saying in words the way I felt.. that he really needed to hear it, and when I finally did, it was too late.Whenever we saw each other, he acts as if he doesn't see me and ignores me. This all happened 1,5 years ago, and we haven't had any contact what so ever since thennHe has moved on, but is clearly not happy in his new relationship, even though they are moving in together this month. I still and never will get over him, but I'm ok now. Thing is, he always asks my sister how I am, if things are going great and stuff.I am leaving the continent to live on another island, where he will not see me again, for good! It's the best for me! He must have heard that through mutual friends, because he asked my sister if that was true.Yesterday, at 2 in the morning he was at my porch, telling me that he wants to wish me good luck when I leave. Remember, we didn't see each other for 1,5 years, and now he suddenly appears on my porch?! He also still has my phone number in his phone. He hugged me tight, kissed me, and we even made love (for the last time). It felt right, we laughed and talked about stupid stuff, it was as if he never left. Then, before leaving he wished me good luck again and he left. This was 4 days ago.. he never called back or anything. Do you think he still wants to be with me even though he has a gf? Or that he just wanted closure (we never had that)?Should I write him a letter explaining everything from the past to him? Or should I just let it go, and let God do his work? 1 thing I know for sure: he is my soulmate, and we are meant to be. Maybe not now, but one day. I know deep down he still feels for me, and that the distance might help him realize that!
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (24 August 2010):
 Look you were never his girlfriend just his side item. You two have never had a relationship, just sex and a whole lot of confusion for you. He stopped by for a visit because your still allowing him to be in your life, he gets bored of his girlfriend then runs to you for sex and now a chat. You're looking into it way too much take a step back and really look at what stands out. You aren't anything to him, he has no obligations to you. Do a better job of shutting him out of your life because if you don't he'll continue to play you for a fool, and you'll still be confused, hurt, and wasting your time on someone who doesn't want to be with you. If he REALLY wanted to be with you then he would've dumped his girlfriend and asked you out. But he didn't.
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reader, Mami22 +, writes (24 August 2010):
Mami22 is verified as being by the original poster of the question I should say.. 3 days later he was at my house again.. no sex, just talking about our lives... Doesn't that say something?
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (21 August 2010):
So u cheated on ur bf with K? How long did u take to end things with ur boyfriend? Sorry but it sounds like u were just a fun fling for him. And the right before u leave sex, it only confuses u even more that wasnt a great idea. Plus, he cheated on his gf with u, what if he was with u what makes u think he won't cheat on u? If he was any kind of man or ur soulmate, he wouldnt have initiated any cheating while u were with ur boyfriend instead he wouldve said call me when ur done with him. Take the chance and move away, out of site out of mind. This K isnt going to realize the distance he's already moved on and moved another girl in.
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